31 The Impact of Care Giving on Families and Dynamics and Effects of Loss, Separation and Grief
Alexandria Lewis
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Content Outline, Competency, and KSAs
I. Human Development, Diversity, and Behavior in the Environment
1A. Human Growth and Development
KSAs:
– The impact of care giving on families
– The dynamics and effects of loss, separation, and grief
impact of care giving on families
The impact of caregiving on families encompasses a broad range of effects, both positive and negative, affecting emotional, physical, social, and financial aspects of family life. Here are some of the key impacts:
- Emotional and Psychological Effects:
- Increased stress and burnout: Caregivers may experience high levels of stress due to the constant demands of caregiving, leading to burnout.
- Anxiety and depression: The responsibilities and emotional strain of caregiving can lead to anxiety and depression among caregivers.
- Feelings of isolation: Caregivers may feel isolated due to the time and energy demands of caregiving (especially if they have limited resources). The importance of social support cannot be overstated.
- Guilt: Caregivers may feel as if they are not doing enough.
- Physical Health:
- Increased health issues: The stress and physical demands of caregiving can lead to physical health problems, including a higher risk of developing chronic conditions like hypertension or heart disease. Some caregivers may not have an opportunity to go to their own medical appointments when they have limited resources. They may also not have an opportunity to engage in self-care.
- Financial Impact:
- Financial strain: The costs associated with caregiving, such as medical expenses, adaptations for the home, or reduced income if reducing work hours or quitting a job to care, can create significant financial strain.
- Career impact: Caregivers may face challenges in maintaining their career trajectory, including reduced hours, less flexibility, or even having to leave their job.
- Social and Relationship Impact:
- Changed family dynamics: Caregiving can alter family roles and dynamics, leading to tensions or conflicts among family members.
- Reduced time for relationships: Caregivers may have less time to spend with other family members or friends, affecting their relationships.
- Support systems: Caregiving can strengthen bonds within a family as members come together to provide care. It can also expand social networks as families connect with support groups or communities facing similar challenges.
- Personal Growth and Positive Aspects:
- Increased skills and knowledge: Caregivers often develop new skills and a deeper understanding of healthcare systems and resources.
- Sense of fulfillment: Despite the challenges, many caregivers experience a sense of fulfillment and purpose in providing care to a loved one.
- Strengthened relationships: The shared experience of caregiving can strengthen relationships between the caregiver and the recipient, as well as with other family members who are involved.
dynamics and effects of loss, separation, and grief
Grief and mourning are sometimes used interchangeably in the research literature and are defined differently by various authors and researchers.
Loss Definitions:
- Humphrey (2009) defined loss as “the real or perceived deprivation of something deemed meaningful” (p. 5).
- Murray (2016) defined loss as “an event which is perceived to be negative by the individuals involved and results in long-term changes to one’s social situation, relationships, or cognitions” (p. 6). Murray (indicated that some view loss as more of an event; others suggest there needs to be an adverse reaction or negative experience resulting from the event for it to be considered a loss.
Grief Definitions
- “…one’s reactions to loss…The word grief signifies one’s reactions, both internally and externally, to the impact of the loss” (Corr et al., 2019, p. 219).
- “A system of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that are triggered when a person is faced with loss or the threat of loss. Emphasis is on both internal (thoughts and feelings) and external (behaviors) reactions” (Jeffreys, 2011, p. 43).
- “…the neuropsychobiological response to any kind of significant loss, with elements both typical and unique to each individual or situation” (Bruce, 2007, para. 3).
Mourning Definitions
- “…mourning has two complementary forms or aspects. It is both an internal, private, or intrapersonal process–our inward struggles to cope with or try to manage both the loss and our grief reactions to the loss, and an outward, public, or interpersonal process-the overt, visible, and shared expression of grief, together with efforts to obtain social support” (Corr et al., p. 228).
- “The behaviors that are part of the human grief response and serve to differentiate mourners from others in a person’s social network. Emphasis is on external behaviors, expressions of grief, and manner of dress” (Jeffreys, 2011, p. 228).
- “The process that one goes through in adapting to the death of the person. The finality and consequences of the loss are understood and assimilated into the life of the mourner” (Worden, 2018, p. 18).
Grief Myths:
- Everyone grieves in the same manner.
- Everyone must go through phases, stages, tasks, etc., to ‘resolve’ their grief.
- Everyone should express certain emotions.
- Everyone had a close and positive relationship with the person who died.
- Everyone needs grief counseling or therapy.
- Grief and mourning are passive.
- Grief resolves in a specific time period.
- Every family member has the same grief experiences when a loved one dies in the family.
- We cope and adapt the same after every loss.
- Grief is primarily an emotional response.
- Grief is linear.
- If a person’s grief impacts their life significantly, then they are not grieving ‘correctly.’
While loss, grief, and mourning, are certainly individual experiences, there is also a broader context to consider with loss, grief, and mourning. The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines context as “the interrelated conditions in which something exists or occurs” (n.d.). Harris (2011) made connections between loss and grief in different systems, including social, family, organizational, and political. Harris’s (2011) description aligns well with the person-in-environment perspective and systems theory.
There are several grief models, such as Worden’s four tasks of mourning:
William Worden suggests that mourning is an active process involving four tasks that the bereaved must accomplish (Corr et al., 2019):
- Task 1 Accept the Reality of the Loss:
- This involves coming to terms with the fact that the loss has occurred and the person or thing is not coming back.
- Task 2 Process the Pain of Grief:
- Acknowledging and experiencing the pain that accompany loss, rather than avoiding them.
- Task 3 Adjust to a World Without the Deceased:
- This includes external adjustments (how to live without the deceased), internal adjustments (how to see oneself without the deceased), and spiritual adjustments (finding meaning in the loss).
- Task 4 Find an Enduring Connection with the Deceased in the Midst of Embarking on a New Life:
- This involves finding a way to maintain a connection to the lost entity while moving forward with life.
Psychological and Emotional Effects
- Depression and Anxiety: Loss and separation can trigger depressive episodes and heightened anxiety, impacting daily functioning.
- Identity and Role Confusion: Losing someone significant can lead to questions about one’s identity and role within the family and society.
Physical Health Impacts
- The stress from grief can have physical effects, including changes in appetite, sleep disturbances, and a weakened immune system, making one more susceptible to illness.
Behavioral Changes
- Changes in behavior may occur, such as withdrawal from social activities, neglect of personal responsibilities, or increased use of alcohol or drugs as coping mechanisms.
Cognitive and Social Effects
- Concentration and Decision Making: Grief can impact concentration and the ability to make decisions.
- Social Withdrawal: Some individuals may isolate themselves for various reasons, including not receiving helpful support from others.
Important Considerations
- Person-Centered Approach: Tailor support to the individual’s unique grieving process, acknowledging that there is no one-size-fits-all solution.
- Support Systems: Encourage the development of or reliance on support systems, including family, friends, and community resources.
- Cultural Humility: Understand and respect cultural, religious, and personal differences in grieving practices.
ASWB Exam
If your exam has questions about grief and loss, the questions could be based on outdated grief models, such as the Kübler-Ross five stages of grief:
This model originally described the experiences of people with life-limiting illness (called the stages of dying) based on interviews with persons with terminal illnesses. Over time, it has been applied more broadly to other forms of loss. The five stages include:
- Denial: The initial shock of loss leads to disbelief. Individuals may deny the reality of the situation to avoid pain.
- Anger: As the denial fades, it is replaced by feelings of frustration, envy, and anger. The individual may question “Why me?” and feel angry at others, themselves, or the deceased.
- Bargaining: Individuals may make bargains with a higher power, promising to change if only the lost person or thing can be returned.
- Depression: Realization of the extent of the loss leads to profound sadness. Individuals may withdraw from life, feel numb, helpless, and overwhelmed by despair.
- Acceptance: This final stage involves coming to terms with the reality of the loss. Acceptance does not mean happiness but rather a resigned attitude towards the new reality and starting to move forward with life.
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Reference
Corr, C., Corr, D., & Doka, K. (2019). Death & dying, life & living (8th ed.). Cengage Learning, Inc.
Harris, D.L. (2011). The social context of loss and grief. In D.L. Harris (Ed.). Counting our losses: Reflecting on change, loss, and transition in everyday life (pp. 15-24). Routledge.
Humphrey, K.M. (2009). Counseling strategies for loss and grief. American Counseling Association.
Jeffreys, J.S. (2011). Helping grieving people when tears are not enough: A handbook for care providers (2nd ed.). Routledge.
Murrary, J. (2016). Understanding loss: A guide for caring for those facing adversity. Routledge.
Servaty-Seib, H.L. (2014). Using a gain/loss framework to measure impact: The perceived impact of life event scale. Journal of Loss and Trauma, 19(4), 331-354.
Worden, J.W. (2018). Grief counseling and grief therapy (5th ed.). Springer Publishing Company, LLC.