Chapter 10: From Tension to Trust: A Peacemaker’s Guide to Conflict
Learning Objectives
After reading this chapter, you should be able todo the following:
- Identify and differentiate between various types of conflict in organizational settings.
- Analyze the underlying causes of conflict within teams and organizations.
- Evaluate the short- and long-term consequences of unresolved and poorly managed conflict.
- Apply effective conflict management strategies to resolve interpersonal and group disputes.
- Describe and illustrate the key stages of the negotiation process.
- Recognize and avoid common negotiation errors through strategic preparation and reflection.
- Demonstrate ethical decision-making in conflict resolution and negotiation scenarios.
- Compare and assess cross-cultural differences in conflict styles and negotiation approaches.
Section 10.1: Spotlighht
Communication Breakdown: The 2015 University of Missouri Conflict
In 2015, the University of Missouri (Mizzou) became a national focal point for racial tensions and administrative accountability. The conflict began with student reports of racial slurs and symbols of hate, including a swastika drawn in feces in a residence hall. These incidents, combined with what students perceived as administrative inaction, escalated into a full-blown organizational crisis. The types of conflict involved were both interpersonal—between students and administrators—and structural, rooted in systemic issues of race, representation, and institutional responsiveness. The situation also reflected value-based conflict, as students and leadership clashed over the university’s commitment to diversity and inclusion.
The university’s failure to manage the conflict effectively stemmed largely from communication breakdowns. President Tim Wolfe’s delayed and vague responses to student concerns were interpreted as dismissive, fueling further unrest. According to organizational communication theory, timely, transparent, and empathetic messaging is critical during crises (Clampitt, 2016). Instead, the administration’s lack of visible engagement created a vacuum that student activists filled with protests, a hunger strike, and eventually a football team boycott. These actions forced the administration into reactive rather than proactive communication, undermining trust and credibility.
The negotiation process between students and university leadership was marked by missteps. Wolfe’s refusal to meet early demands for dialogue and his failure to acknowledge the emotional weight of the students’ experiences created a perception of indifference. Negotiation theory emphasizes the importance of active listening and mutual respect in resolving disputes (Fisher & Ury, 2011). By not engaging in meaningful dialogue until the crisis reached a boiling point, the administration missed opportunities to de-escalate tensions and co-create solutions with student leaders.
Cross-cultural differences in conflict management further complicated the situation. Many of the protesting students were Black, while the university’s leadership was predominantly white. Research shows that cultural backgrounds influence how individuals perceive and respond to conflict—some cultures value direct confrontation, while others prefer indirect or collaborative approaches (Avruch, 1998). The administration’s formal, bureaucratic responses may have clashed with students’ expectations for personal acknowledgment and emotional validation, exacerbating feelings of marginalization.
The consequences of the conflict were profound. President Wolfe and Chancellor R. Bowen Loftin both resigned, and the university faced national scrutiny, enrollment declines, and reputational damage. In response, Mizzou implemented structural changes, including the creation of a Chief Diversity, Inclusion, and Equity Officer and mandatory diversity training. These outcomes underscore the importance of organizational communication in crisis management. When communication fails to reflect empathy, transparency, and cultural awareness, even isolated incidents can spiral into institutional crises.
Ultimately, the University of Missouri’s 2015 conflict serves as a cautionary tale about the cost of communication failures in diverse, high-stakes environments. It highlights the need for leaders to engage in culturally competent dialogue, respond swiftly to emerging tensions, and foster inclusive communication channels that empower all voices within the organization.
References
Avruch, K. (1998). Culture and conflict resolution. United States Institute of Peace Press.
Clampitt, P. G. (2016). Communicating for managerial effectiveness: Challenges, strategies, solutions (6th ed.). SAGE Publications.
Fisher, R., & Ury, W. (2011). Getting to yes: Negotiating agreement without giving in (3rd ed.). Penguin Books.
University of Missouri. (2015). Campus climate updates and diversity initiatives. https://missouri.edu
Discussion Questions
- How could the University of Missouri’s leadership have applied more effective communication strategies early in the conflict to prevent escalation, particularly in responding to value-based and structural conflicts?
- In what ways might cross-cultural communication styles have influenced the breakdown in dialogue between students and university leadership, and how can understanding these differences improve future negotiation efforts in diverse environments?
- What role does leadership visibility and empathetic listening play in conflict resolution within large institutions, and how might earlier engagement from President Wolfe have changed the negotiation dynamic and outcome?
Section 10.2: Understanding Conflict
Learning Objectives
After reading this chapter, you should be able to do the following:
- Define and distinguish between five types of organizational conflict—intrapersonal, interpersonal, intragroup, intergroup, and interorganizational—and articulate their key characteristics and implications.
- Evaluate the impact of conflict levels on team performance by interpreting research on task, relationship, and process conflict across project lifecycles.
- Analyze the potential benefits of moderate task-related conflict, including its role in fostering creativity, improving decision-making, and enhancing team dynamics.
- Identify root causes of workplace conflict, such as miscommunication, structural tensions, or competing goals, and link these causes to specific types of conflict.
- Differentiate between constructive and destructive conflict behaviors, using real-world examples (e.g., Intel’s “constructive confrontation” training) to illustrate conflict management strategies.
- Apply rhetorical and emotional intelligence principles to conflict resolution, such as face-saving techniques, non-defensive dialogue, and inclusive communication.
- Reflect on personal conflict experiences in the workplace and assess how context, communication style, and conflict type influenced the outcomes.
Conflict is a natural and inevitable part of organizational life, arising when individuals or groups perceive incompatible goals, limited resources, or interference in achieving their objectives (De Dreu & Beersma, 2005). Rather than viewing conflict as inherently negative, contemporary organizational communication research encourages us to see it as a potential catalyst for growth, innovation, and deeper understanding—especially when approached with humility and ethical awareness. This chapter reframes conflict not as a disruption to avoid, but as an opportunity to practice emotional intelligence, relational repair, and peacemaking.
Scholars typically classify conflict into three foundational types: intrapersonal, interpersonal, and intergroup (Lumen Learning, n.d.; Rice, 2000). Intrapersonal conflict occurs within the individual and often involves competing roles, values, or decisions. For example, an employee may struggle between loyalty to a supervisor and solidarity with peers. Peacemaking in this context involves acknowledging internal tension and resisting binary thinking, recognizing that multiple truths may coexist (Gladwell, 2013). Interpersonal conflict arises between individuals—such as coworkers or managers and subordinates—and often stems from miscommunication, personality differences, or perceived power imbalances. A peacemaker avoids assuming motives and recognizes personal bias, engaging in dialogue that prioritizes dignity and mutual respect (DeAngelis, 2010). Intergroup conflict occurs between teams, departments, or organizations and often reflects deeper issues related to competition, cultural divides, or resource allocation. Peacemakers in these situations resist “us vs. them” mentalities and apply uplifting directives to foster collaboration and shared purpose (Ahmed, 2021).
Importantly, conflict is not always harmful. Research distinguishes between task-related conflict—which can enhance decision-making and creativity—and relationship conflict, which tends to be more emotionally charged and destructive (Rispens, 2014). When managed ethically, moderate levels of task conflict can improve team performance and problem-solving. However, unresolved relationship conflict can erode trust and psychological safety. Peacemakers navigate these tensions by practicing apology and forgiveness, staying open to multiple perspectives, and resisting the urge to “die on the hill of rightness.” The goal is not to eliminate conflict, but to transform it into trust, clarity, and shared direction.
4 Types of Conflict in Organizations
Intrapersonal Conflict
Intrapersonal conflict occurs within the individual and often involves competing values, roles, or psychological pressures. For example, an employee may experience tension between personal beliefs and professional responsibilities, leading to ethical dilemmas or decision paralysis. This form of conflict is often invisible to others but can significantly affect motivation and clarity (Elmoudden, 2023; Kahn, Wolfe, Quinn, Snoek, & Rosenthal, 1964). Peacemaking in intrapersonal conflict requires introspection, recognition of bias, and emotional regulation—practices that foster resilience and growth rather than avoidance (Lewin, 1948).
Interpersonal Conflict
Interpersonal conflict emerges between individuals—coworkers, supervisors, or clients. It can stem from personality differences, miscommunication, or perceived disrespect. In organizational life, interpersonal conflict is one of the most frequent and often the most visible types. Emotional intelligence and active listening are critical tools for managing these disputes constructively (Oetzel, Ting-Toomey, Masumoto, & Yokochi, 2003; Tripathy, 2021). The ability to apologize and engage in non-defensive dialogue enhances relationship quality and promotes reconciliation.
Intragroup Conflict
Intragroup conflict arises within a team or department. It may involve disagreements over goals, methods, or role clarity. Not all intragroup conflict is destructive—task-related disagreements, for instance, can lead to deeper understanding and innovation (Jehn, 1995). However, when conflict becomes personal or relational, it threatens cohesion and morale. Inclusive communication and shared purpose are vital in transforming internal rifts into opportunities for growth (McCarter, Fienberg, & Galvin, 2018; Wu & Sekiguchi, 2019).
Intergroup Conflict
Intergroup conflict takes place between distinct groups or units—such as departments with differing priorities. For instance, tension between a hospital’s clinical and administrative branches may originate from role misalignment or competition for resources. While moderate levels of conflict can encourage creativity and sharpen group identity, unmanaged intergroup disputes often reinforce siloed thinking and reduce collaboration (Fisher, 1990; Nicotera & Jameson, 2021). Overcoming these divides requires cross-group dialogue and a shared vision that bridges functional differences.
Interorganizational Conflict
Interorganizational conflict occurs between separate entities such as partners, competitors, or vendors. These conflicts are shaped by structural inequalities, divergent interests, or cultural mismatches. For example, strategic alliances can deteriorate when trust breaks down or objectives shift. Resolving such conflicts demands negotiation, mutual understanding, and often third-party mediation (Lumineau, Fréchet, & Puthod, 2015). Unlike internal disputes, interorganizational conflict often lacks a formal resolution structure, making relational norms and communication protocols especially important (Aldrich, 1971).
When Conflict Fuels Progress: Rethinking the “Bad” Reputation
Many people instinctively shy away from conflict, viewing it as disruptive or emotionally exhausting. But is conflict always bad? While conflict can become harmful when it paralyzes decision-making, diminishes team performance, or escalates into hostility, it can also be a surprisingly constructive force in organizational life (Amason, 1996). The challenge lies in understanding the sources, consequences, and optimal levels of conflict—and in cultivating communication strategies to manage it effectively.
Conflict exists on a continuum, and both extremes carry risk. Too little conflict may signal apathy or groupthink, leading to uninspired ideas and weak performance. Conversely, too much conflict can fracture relationships and hinder collaboration. The sweet spot? A moderate level of task-related conflict—especially in the early phases of decision making—is often ideal, because it sparks healthy debate and invites diverse perspectives (De Dreu & Weingart, 2003). This type of conflict may enhance creativity, encouraging team members to push beyond superficial solutions.
However, not all conflict is created equal. Personal conflicts—such as targeted criticism or emotional outbursts—rarely contribute anything positive. These interactions tend to produce stress, damage trust, and may even result in bullying or workplace toxicity. In contrast, task conflict centers on ideas and solutions, not individuals, and can energize groups without alienating participants.
Organizations that embrace conflict as a tool for growth often provide training to help employees engage productively. Intel Corporation, for example, developed a “constructive confrontation” module for new hires. This four-hour training teaches workers to communicate through facts rather than personal attacks, and to focus discussion on issues—not personalities. “We don’t spend time being defensive or taking things personally. We cut through all of that and get to the issues,” notes a trainer from Intel University (Dahle, 2001). While its long-term impact isn’t fully known, the initiative illustrates a proactive approach to conflict that views it not as something to suppress, but as something to harness.
Research tracking effective teams over time reveals an intriguing pattern: successful teams tend to exhibit low but increasing levels of process conflict—the “how” of getting work done. They experience low relationship conflict, with slight upticks toward project completion, and moderate levels of task conflict midway through their timeline (Jehn & Mannix, 2001). These dynamics suggest that well-managed conflict, aligned with purpose and timing, can drive collaboration and results rather than derail them.
Conflict as Catalyst
Conflict, when mismanaged or left unchecked, can undoubtedly hinder productivity and erode relationships. Yet, as we’ve seen, conflict is not inherently negative—it is a natural and even necessary feature of organizational life. The key is balance. Task-related conflict at moderate levels can drive innovation, sharpen decision-making, and challenge teams to think beyond the obvious. By contrast, personal and relational conflict typically destabilize group dynamics, highlighting the importance of communication training and emotional intelligence.
Recognizing that conflict exists on a continuum empowers leaders and team members to actively manage its presence—not to eliminate it entirely, but to shape its outcomes. Programs like Intel’s “constructive confrontation” suggest that conflict can be taught as a skill, not feared as a threat. As research on effective teams indicates, the timing, type, and intensity of conflict all influence whether it ultimately strengthens or weakens performance.
So rather than asking whether conflict is “bad,” perhaps a better question is: How do we harness conflict as a force for growth, dialogue, and innovation? With the right tools and mindset, conflict becomes less of a problem to avoid—and more of a strategy to embrace.
Insider Edge
Navigating Workplace Sabotage and Conflict-Driven Colleagues
In every organization, collaboration is key—but what happens when a colleague seems to thrive on conflict, manipulation, or subtle sabotage? Whether it’s passive-aggressive emails, strategic obstruction, or public undermining, these behaviors can erode trust, productivity, and morale. This Insider Edge equips you with research-backed strategies to protect your work, maintain professionalism, and foster a healthier communication climate.
Recognizing the BehaviorSabotage and conflict-seeking behaviors often manifest as:
- Relational aggression: Gossip, exclusion, or undermining others’ credibility (Coyne et al., 2006)
- Passive resistance: Withholding information, missing deadlines, or feigning incompetence (Kassing, 2000)
- Toxic competitiveness: Prioritizing personal gain over team success (Ferris et al., 2007)
These behaviors are often rooted in insecurity, power struggles, or a desire for control. Recognizing them is the first step toward neutralizing their impact.
Strategies for Empowerment
1. Document and Clarify
Keep records of interactions that feel manipulative or obstructive. Use clear, assertive language in communication to minimize ambiguity and reduce opportunities for misinterpretation.
Example: “To confirm, you’ll be submitting the report by Friday at noon, correct?”
2. Use Upward Dissent Constructively
Kassing (2000) identifies “articulated dissent” as a healthy way to voice concerns to supervisors. Frame issues around organizational goals rather than personal grievances.
Instead of: “Alex is sabotaging my work.” Try: “I’ve noticed recurring delays that are impacting our team’s deliverables. Can we explore ways to improve coordination?”
3. Build Alliances, Not Cliques
Strengthen relationships with colleagues who value transparency and collaboration. This creates a buffer against toxic dynamics and reinforces a culture of accountability.
4. Leverage Organizational Channels
Use HR, ombudspersons, or anonymous reporting tools when direct resolution isn’t feasible. Organizations with strong ethical climates encourage reporting and protect whistleblowers (Mayer et al., 2009).
5. Practice Communication Resilience
Train yourself to respond—not react. Techniques like reframing, active listening, and boundary-setting help maintain professionalism under pressure (Goleman, 2006).
Culture Shift Starts with You
While you may not be able to change a colleague’s behavior, you can influence the communication climate around you. Modeling ethical, assertive, and transparent communication sets a standard that others often follow.
References
Coyne, I., Seigne, E., & Randall, P. (2006). Predicting workplace victim status from personality. European Journal of Work and Organizational Psychology, 15(3), 307–330. https://doi.org/10.1080/13594320600636518
Ferris, G. R., Liden, R. C., Munyon, T. P., Summers, J. K., Basik, K. J., & Buckley, M. R. (2007). Organizational politics: The nature of the construct, a research agenda, and a summary of empirical findings. In C. P. Hulin & W. C. Borman (Eds.), APA handbook of industrial and organizational psychology (Vol. 3, pp. 233–263). American Psychological Association.
Goleman, D. (2006). Social intelligence: The new science of human relationships. Bantam Books.
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Discussion Questions
- Conflict can arise within oneself, between individuals, and across teams and organizations. Based on what you’ve learned, how would you describe the differences between intrapersonal, interpersonal, intragroup, intergroup, and interorganizational conflicts?
- Organizational conflict may stem from misaligned goals, unclear roles, communication breakdowns, or structural tensions. What do you think are the most common causes of conflict in professional settings?
- Miscommunication can contribute to conflict by distorting intentions, triggering emotional responses, or reinforcing stereotypes. Reflecting on your own experience, how has poor communication played a role in escalating conflict?
Section 10.3: Causes and Outcomes of Conflict
Learning Objectives
After reading this chapter, you should be able to do the following:
- Identify and analyze common causes of conflict in organizational settings
- Examine occupational factors that increase the risk of workplace conflict and violence
- Evaluate the potential outcomes of workplace conflict—both constructive and harmful
Conflict in organizations rarely arises from a single source; rather, it stems from an interplay of structural, interpersonal, and informational dynamics. One major contributor is organizational structure—hierarchies and formal reporting lines can generate tension by restricting communication, fostering power imbalances, and limiting collaborative autonomy (Elmoudden, 2023). Similarly, limited resources such as time, budget, or personnel may force teams into competitive postures, breeding resentment and friction (Jehn & Mannix, 2001). Task interdependence adds another layer; when projects require tight coordination, one team’s delay or misalignment can negatively impact others, leading to blame and frustration (De Dreu & Weingart, 2003). Incompatible goals also often spark conflict—different departments may pursue divergent objectives, such as marketing pushing for reach while operations emphasize cost efficiency, resulting in persistent tension (Amason, 1996). Personality differences, including distinct temperaments, values, or communication styles, further complicate collaboration and can intensify emotional reactions in high-stakes environments (Tripathy, 2021). Most significantly, miscommunication—including missing or misunderstood information, poor timing, or digital ambiguity—frequently serves as the spark that ignites deeper issues. When teams fail to clarify expectations, intentions can be misread and trust undermined (Oetzel et al., 2003).
The outcomes of conflict are equally multifaceted. Negative consequences can be severe—reduced morale, emotional stress, damaged relationships, and increased turnover all signal mismanaged or excessive conflict (Jehn, 1995; Nicotera & Jameson, 2021). In extreme cases, personal attacks and bullying may occur, especially when relational conflict escalates unchecked (Dahle, 2001). Yet when carefully moderated, conflict can produce highly positive results. Constructive conflict—especially moderate levels of task conflict—encourages idea generation, critical thinking, and more robust decision-making (De Dreu & Weingart, 2003). It clarifies goals, improves group processes, and, once resolved, can foster stronger interpersonal bonds and team cohesion. Organizations such as Intel have recognized these opportunities, implementing “constructive confrontation” programs to teach employees how to engage in conflict respectfully and productively, focusing on issues rather than personalities (Dahle, 2001). Longitudinal studies suggest that the timing of conflict also matters—effective teams often display rising levels of process conflict toward the end of projects and moderate task conflict midstream, while maintaining low levels of relationship conflict throughout (Jehn & Mannix, 2001). Ultimately, conflict is not inherently harmful; it is the way it is understood, framed, and resolved that determines whether it becomes a force for disruption—or a catalyst for innovation and growth.
6 Causes of Conflict
1. Organizational Structure
Organizational structure plays a pivotal role in shaping how conflict manifests within a workplace. Different structural designs—such as hierarchical, flat, or matrix—create distinct pathways for communication, authority, and decision-making, each with its own potential for tension. In particular, matrix structures are known to embed decisional conflict into the system itself. This occurs because employees, especially managers, are often required to report to multiple supervisors across functional and geographic lines, leading to ambiguity in priorities and accountability (Jaffe, 2000). A prime example is ABB Inc., a global company structured around both country and industry dimensions. With over 1,200 geographic units and 50 industry-based divisions, ABB’s matrix design has been cited as a source of confusion and conflict due to overlapping responsibilities and competing directives (Taylor, 1991). While such structures aim to enhance flexibility and responsiveness, they also increase the likelihood of authority disputes, goal misalignment, and interpersonal friction—especially when roles are not clearly defined or when cultural norms differ across units. Thus, organizational structure is not merely a backdrop for conflict; it actively shapes the conditions under which conflict arises and must be managed.
2. Limited Resources
Scarcity of resources is one of the most persistent and tangible causes of conflict in organizational settings. When critical assets such as time, funding, personnel, or equipment are limited, individuals and departments often find themselves competing to secure what they need to meet their goals. This competition can lead to tension, resentment, and breakdowns in collaboration, especially when resource allocation is perceived as unfair or opaque (Jaffe, 2000). For example, if one team receives upgraded technology while another continues to struggle with outdated tools, feelings of inequity may arise, undermining morale and trust. Moreover, resource scarcity can exacerbate existing structural or interpersonal tensions, particularly when departments are interdependent. A sales team may push for expedited delivery to close deals, while the logistics team resists due to budget constraints—each acting rationally within their own priorities, yet clashing over limited means (Jehn & Mannix, 2001). In such cases, conflict is not merely a byproduct of scarcity but a signal that organizational systems may need recalibration to balance competing needs. Effective communication and transparent decision-making processes are essential to mitigate these tensions and transform resource-based conflict into opportunities for strategic alignment.
3. Task Interdependence
Task interdependence refers to the degree to which individuals or teams rely on one another to complete their work, and it is a common source of conflict in collaborative environments. When tasks are tightly linked—such as in sequential or reciprocal workflows—delays, miscommunication, or mismatched expectations in one area can ripple across the organization, creating frustration and blame (Jehn, 1995; Thompson, 1967). For example, a marketing team may depend on the creative department to deliver assets before launching a campaign. If the creative team misses a deadline, the marketing team’s goals are jeopardized, potentially leading to interpersonal tension or organizational bottlenecks. Research shows that higher levels of task interdependence increase the likelihood of both task and relationship conflict, especially when roles are unclear or when teams lack shared norms for collaboration (Lee et al., 2015; Jehn & Mannix, 2001). However, task interdependence can also foster cooperation and improve performance when managed effectively—particularly when teams have strong trust, open communication, and aligned incentives (Wageman, 1995; Bradley et al., 2012). Thus, while interdependence is essential for complex projects, it must be supported by clear processes and relational safeguards to prevent conflict from undermining team cohesion.
4. Incompatible Goals
Incompatible goals are a frequent and often unavoidable source of conflict in organizations, particularly when different departments or individuals pursue objectives that are misaligned or mutually exclusive. This type of conflict arises when one party’s success is perceived to hinder another’s, creating tension and competition rather than collaboration (Jaffe, 2000). For example, a sales manager may be incentivized to offer expedited shipping to close deals quickly, while a logistics manager may be rewarded for minimizing transportation costs. These conflicting priorities can lead to disputes over resource allocation, decision-making authority, and performance metrics. Such goal misalignment is often embedded in compensation structures or departmental mandates, which unintentionally pit teams against one another (Wilmot & Hocker, 2010). Resolving these conflicts requires systemic adjustments—such as aligning incentives with shared organizational outcomes or redesigning workflows to support interdepartmental cooperation. Without such interventions, incompatible goals can erode trust, reduce efficiency, and foster siloed thinking. As organizations grow more complex, the need to reconcile competing objectives becomes critical to maintaining cohesion and strategic focus.
5. Personality Differences
Personality differences are a natural and inevitable aspect of workplace dynamics, yet they often serve as a catalyst for conflict when not properly understood or managed. Individuals bring distinct temperaments, values, emotional responses, and communication styles to their roles, which can lead to misunderstandings, tension, or even interpersonal clashes (Wilmot & Hocker, 2010). For instance, employees high in neuroticism may perceive interactions as more emotionally charged, while those high in agreeableness may avoid confrontation altogether—both responses can distort team dynamics and hinder resolution efforts (Brebner, 2001; Sandy, Boardman, & Deutsch, 2014). Research also shows that personality traits influence preferred conflict resolution styles. The Thomas-Kilmann model identifies five approaches—competing, collaborating, compromising, avoiding, and accommodating—and individuals tend to gravitate toward styles that align with their personality profiles (Messarra, Karkoulian, & El-Kassar, 2016). For example, extroverts may favor direct engagement, while introverts might prefer reflective or indirect methods. These differences can be exacerbated by generational or cultural factors, which shape expectations around assertiveness, feedback, and emotional expression. When personality-driven conflict is left unaddressed, it can escalate into relational discord, reduce psychological safety, and impair team performance. However, organizations that foster emotional intelligence, empathy, and inclusive communication can transform personality diversity into a source of strength rather than division.
6. Miscommunication and Information Gaps
Miscommunication and information gaps are among the most pervasive—and often preventable—sources of conflict in organizations. Whether caused by unclear expectations, ambiguous language, cultural misunderstandings, or digital overload, poor communication disrupts workflow, breeds mistrust, and distorts intentions (Oetzel, Ting-Toomey, Masumoto, & Yokochi, 2003). A message delivered hastily in a team chat, or an email lacking tone and context, can be interpreted in ways far removed from its intent, particularly in remote or cross-cultural environments. Additionally, delayed access to critical information or inconsistent updates across departments may lead to frustration and finger-pointing, undermining collaboration (Nicotera & Jameson, 2021). These breakdowns are often worsened by differing communication styles—some team members prefer direct and concise messaging, while others value relational context and indirect cues (Ting-Toomey, 1999). Without intentional design and proactive norms for transparency and feedback, miscommunication and information gaps can escalate into interpersonal or intergroup conflict. On the other hand, teams that cultivate active listening, face-saving strategies, and rhetorical mindfulness—such as clarifying intent, checking for understanding, and contextualizing tone—are better equipped to turn potential confusion into constructive dialogue and alignment.
Outcomes of Conflict
Conflict isn’t inherently destructive; its outcomes are shaped by how it’s managed. At one end of the spectrum, poorly handled conflict leads to burnout, turnover, absenteeism, and productivity loss—especially when it festers or escalates without resolution (De Dreu & Weingart, 2003). Interpersonal tension may poison team dynamics, distort goals, and provoke power struggles that stall innovation. Meanwhile, unresolved conflict consumes managerial energy and diverts focus from strategic priorities (Rahim, 2011).
But conflict, when approached constructively, can sharpen perspectives, deepen understanding, and catalyze change. Teams that engage in task-focused conflict—debating ideas rather than personalities—often emerge more aligned, creative, and adaptable (Jehn & Mannix, 2001). Constructive conflict prompts reevaluation of assumptions, encourages participatory decision-making, and surfaces hidden risks or opportunities. It can also strengthen trust, particularly when disagreements are aired openly and resolved respectfully.
Importantly, whether conflict becomes a liability or a leadership lever depends on context: power dynamics, organizational norms, and conflict competence all influence whether outcomes trend toward dysfunction or growth. Leaders who foster psychological safety and conflict literacy create cultures where differences become fuel rather than friction.
Workplace Strategy Pack
Empowering Employees Amid Unequal Safety Measures
When employees discover that supervisors secretly lock their offices to protect themselves from potential violence—while leaving frontline staff exposed in unsecured spaces—it can erode trust, heighten fear, and signal a breakdown in organizational transparency. This Strategy Pack offers tools to help employees advocate for equitable safety, foster open communication, and navigate the emotional toll of feeling unprotected.
Understanding the Impact
Psychological Safety & Trust
Psychological safety—the belief that one can speak up or take risks without fear—is foundational to employee well-being (Edmondson, 1999). When safety measures are unevenly distributed, employees may feel expendable or devalued, leading to:
- Increased anxiety and hypervigilance
- Reduced engagement and morale
- Distrust in leadership and organizational culture (Kahn, 1990)
Organizational Silence
Fearful employees may avoid voicing concerns, contributing to a culture of silence (Morrison & Milliken, 2000). This silence can perpetuate unsafe conditions and prevent necessary reforms.
Strategic Actions for Employees
1. Initiate Constructive Dialogue
Use assertive, non-confrontational language to raise concerns. Frame safety as a shared organizational priority.
Example: “I’ve noticed that some areas are more secure than others. Could we explore ways to ensure consistent safety measures across all workspaces?”
2. Leverage Formal Channels
Submit concerns through HR, safety committees, or anonymous reporting systems. Document incidents or patterns that raise alarm.
Tip: Reference OSHA guidelines or internal safety policies to strengthen your case.
3. Build Collective Voice
Form alliances with colleagues to present unified feedback. Collective advocacy often carries more weight and reduces individual risk (Detert & Edmondson, 2011).
4. Request Transparency
Ask leadership to clarify safety protocols and emergency procedures. Transparency builds trust and reduces speculation.
Suggested question: “Can you share the rationale behind current security measures and how they’re being evaluated for fairness?”
5. Practice Situational Awareness
Stay informed about exits, emergency contacts, and response protocols. Encourage regular safety drills and training.
6. Protect Your Emotional Health
Fear of violence can take a psychological toll. Seek support through employee assistance programs (EAPs), peer networks, or mental health professionals.
Communication Tips for High-Stakes Conversations
- Use “I” statements: “I feel unsafe when…” rather than “You don’t care…”
- Stay solution-focused: Offer ideas, not just complaints
- Avoid escalation: Keep tone calm and professional, even when emotions run high
- Follow up: Document conversations and revisit unresolved issues respectfully
Long-Term Culture Change
Employees play a vital role in shaping organizational culture. By advocating for equitable safety and transparent communication, you help build a workplace where everyone feels valued and protected.
References
Detert, J. R., & Edmondson, A. C. (2011). Implicit voice theories: Taken-for-granted rules of self-censorship at work. Academy of Management Journal, 54(3), 461–488. https://doi.org/10.5465/amj.2011.61967925
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Conflict in organizations is inevitable, but not insurmountable. When leaders and teams understand its roots—like miscommunication and information gaps—and recognize the varied outcomes it can produce, they are better equipped to respond thoughtfully and strategically. Constructive conflict doesn’t just reveal problems—it opens doors to innovation, alignment, and trust. By fostering cultures of transparency, psychological safety, and rhetorical mindfulness, organizations can turn friction into forward momentum. In the end, the measure of success isn’t the absence of conflict, but the presence of resilience and dialogue.
Discussion Questions
- What are some key contributors to workplace conflict, and how might organizational culture or communication style influence them?
- How can workplace conflict impact individuals and teams—both positively and negatively? Which professions face a higher risk of workplace violence, and what underlying factors contribute to that vulnerability?
- Reflecting on your own experiences, what short-term and long-term effects have you observed from conflict at work? Were there any unexpected outcomes?
Section 10.4: Conflict Management
Learning Objectives
After reading this chapter, you should be able to do the following:
- Describe the five conflict-handling styles—avoiding, accommodating, compromising, competing, and collaborating—using real-world examples and current research.
- Evaluate the strengths and limitations of each style based on situational factors such as power dynamics, emotional investment, and organizational context.
- Identify their own dominant conflict-handling style and reflect on its effectiveness in various personal and professional settings.
- Analyze the role of psychological safety and emotional intelligence in promoting constructive conflict and encouraging diverse perspectives.
- Explain the risks of having too little conflict and articulate strategies for fostering healthy disagreement in team environments.
- Apply adaptive conflict management techniques to match style to context and support long-term relationship-building and innovation.
- Engage in respectful, issue-focused dialogue by challenging ideas without attacking individuals, using collaborative communication practices.
Conflict is an inevitable feature of organizational life, arising from diverse goals, values, roles, and communication patterns. Far from being purely disruptive, conflict—when managed constructively—can catalyze innovation, strengthen relationships, and enhance decision-making (De Dreu & Gelfand, 2008). Organizational communication scholars emphasize that the way conflict is framed, expressed, and resolved reflects deeper cultural, structural, and interpersonal dynamics (Putnam & Poole, 1987).
Modern organizations face increasingly complex environments, where collaboration across teams, cultures, and technologies demands nuanced conflict management strategies. Research shows that effective conflict management is not merely about resolution, but about fostering climates of openness, psychological safety, and ethical dialogue (Mikkelsen & Clegg, 2018). Communication is central to this process—both as a source of conflict and as a tool for transformation.
This chapter explores five foundational strategies for managing conflict—changing structure, altering team composition, creating shared opposition, applying majority rule, and collaborative problem-solving. These approaches are examined through the lens of organizational communication theory, with attention to their ethical implications, practical applications, and limitations. By integrating insights from emotional intelligence, facework, and communication climate, this chapter aims to equip readers with a holistic framework for navigating conflict in today’s dynamic workplaces.
There are a number of different ways of managing organizational conflict, which are highlighted in this section. Conflict management refers to resolving disagreements effectively.
3 Ways to Manage Conflict
1. Change the Structure
When organizational structure is the root of dysfunctional conflict, redesigning that structure can offer an effective resolution. Structural conflict often arises not from personal animosity but from misaligned roles, incompatible goals, and competing performance metrics (Galbraith, Downey, & Kates, 2002). Organizational communication scholars highlight that systemic tensions—rather than individual behaviors—are frequently the true drivers of conflict in the workplace (Putnam & Poole, 1987). Consider the case of Vanessa, a lead engineer in charge of product development, and Tom, a procurement officer. Vanessa submits a list of components for purchase, only to have Tom reject key items based on cost concerns. Frustrated, she challenges his refusal, arguing that delays jeopardize the entire project. Tom counters that Vanessa’s preferences for leading-edge components consistently strain his budget. This exchange reflects a deeper issue: their roles are governed by conflicting incentives. Sharon, the vice president of the business unit, recognizes the structural nature of their conflict and proposes a solution. She changes their evaluation criteria so both Vanessa and Tom are jointly responsible for total product cost and performance outcomes. This realignment shifts them from adversaries to collaborators. When departments themselves are in conflict, a structural remedy might involve having both report to a common executive who can coordinate their priorities. By adjusting organizational architecture, leaders can foster environments that encourage cooperation over competition and support aligned performance goals.
Strategy 1: Change the Composition of the Team
Addressing Dysfunction Through Design
When interpersonal conflict stems from incompatible personalities, values, or working styles, adjusting the composition of the team may be necessary. This strategy focuses on realigning team membership to foster more productive collaboration and reduce persistent tension.
Organizational communication research suggests that conflict is often amplified when individuals with opposing styles or goals are placed in close proximity without adequate support or mediation (Gordon et al., 1990). In such cases, separating antagonistic members or introducing new voices can shift the team’s dynamic toward cooperation.
For example, if two team members consistently clash over decision-making approaches—one favoring innovation and the other risk-aversion—leaders might reassign one member to a different project or bring in a third party to mediate and balance perspectives. In more extreme cases, replacing a team member may be warranted if the conflict undermines group cohesion and performance.
However, scholars caution that changing team composition should not be the first resort. Before making personnel changes, leaders might try assigning conflicting parties to a low-stakes collaborative task, allowing them to build trust and mutual understanding in a controlled setting (Open Text WSU, n.d.). Even subtle adjustments—like seating arrangements—can reduce tension; research shows that seating antagonists side-by-side rather than face-to-face can decrease conflict intensity (Gordon et al., 1990).
Ultimately, this strategy recognizes that team chemistry matters. By thoughtfully curating team membership, leaders can create environments where diverse perspectives enhance rather than hinder collaboration.
Strategy 2: Create a Common Opposing Force
Transforming Rivalry into Collaboration
Group conflict within organizations often stems from internal competition—whether over resources, recognition, or strategic priorities. One way to mitigate this tension is by redirecting attention toward a shared external challenge or goal. Rather than allowing internal rivalries to fester, leaders can foster unity by emphasizing what the team collectively stands to gain—or lose—together.
Consider the case of two software development groups competing for limited marketing funds. Each team wants to maximize exposure for its product, leading to friction and siloed efforts. However, when leadership shifts the focus to an external competitor threatening market share, the teams begin to collaborate. By pooling resources and aligning messaging, they enhance the company’s overall marketing effectiveness and strengthen its competitive position.
Importantly, the “shared goal” need not be a rival company. It could be a broader challenge—such as navigating an economic downturn, responding to industry disruption, or preserving jobs during a recession. In these cases, departments that previously clashed may find common purpose in safeguarding organizational stability.
Organizational communication scholars note that aligning teams around shared goals reduces tension caused by misaligned priorities and fosters a sense of collective identity (Kaplan, 2023; Edmondson & Lei, 2014). This approach taps into social identity theory, which suggests that people are more likely to cooperate when they perceive themselves as part of a unified group facing a common challenge.
Strategy 3: Using Participatory Decision-Making
Balancing Voice and Efficiency in Group Conflict
In some cases, group conflict can be resolved through a democratic process—specifically, by allowing members to vote on a proposed solution. When implemented thoughtfully, participatory decision-making can foster a sense of fairness and inclusion, especially when all voices are heard and the process is transparent. The idea with the most support is adopted, and the group moves forward with a shared understanding of the outcome.
However, organizational communication scholars caution that this strategy must be used judiciously. If majority rule becomes the default mechanism—particularly when the same individuals or subgroups consistently “win”—it can breed resentment and disengagement among minority voices (Kaner et al., 2014). Overreliance on voting can also shortcut meaningful dialogue, reducing complex issues to binary choices and undermining the collaborative spirit of conflict resolution.
To be effective, participatory decision-making should follow a healthy discussion of the issues at hand. This includes exploring divergent perspectives, acknowledging emotional undercurrents, and seeking common ground. When used sparingly and with care, voting can serve as a practical tool for closure—especially when consensus is elusive but respectful deliberation has occurred.
Ultimately, the goal is not just to make a decision, but to ensure that the process itself strengthens group cohesion and trust. Leaders and facilitators play a key role in framing the decision, guiding discussion, and ensuring that all members feel heard—even if their preferred outcome isn’t selected.
Strategy 4: Engage in Collaboraitve Problem Solving
Focusing on Issues, Not Individuals
Collaborative problem-solving is one of the most widely endorsed approaches to conflict resolution in organizational settings. Rather than assigning blame or defending positions, this strategy encourages individuals or groups to focus on the problem itself—its causes, implications, and potential solutions. The goal is to shift attention away from interpersonal tension and toward shared understanding and constructive action.
Organizational communication scholars emphasize that effective problem-solving requires participants to uncover the root cause of the conflict, not just its surface symptoms (Bernstein & Ablon, 2011). This approach recognizes that in most conflicts, neither side is entirely right or wrong. Instead, each party brings valid concerns, perspectives, and constraints that must be acknowledged and integrated into the solution.
Collaborative problem-solving also promotes psychological safety, allowing individuals to express concerns without fear of retaliation or dismissal (Edmondson & Lei, 2014). When facilitated well, it fosters creativity, mutual respect, and long-term resolution—rather than temporary compromise or avoidance. Leaders play a critical role in guiding this process by modeling empathy, encouraging open dialogue, and helping teams move from reactive stances to proactive collaboration.
2. Managing Communication Climate
Creating Conditions for Resolution
A positive communication climate is essential for constructive conflict management in organizations. Defined as the emotional tone or atmosphere of interactions, communication climate shapes how individuals perceive messages, interpret intent, and respond to disagreement (Wood, 1999). In supportive climates, employees feel respected, heard, and valued—conditions that foster openness, trust, and collaboration. Conversely, defensive climates—marked by judgment, control, and indifference—can escalate conflict and inhibit resolution. Research shows that relational messages often carry subtext beyond content, signaling inclusion, dominance, or disregard through tone, body language, and even silence (Jahangir, Safdar, & Zaheen, 2021). When individuals perceive that their social and relational needs—such as respect, belonging, and autonomy—are unmet, they are more likely to react with defensiveness or disengagement. Leaders play a pivotal role in shaping climate by modeling empathy, encouraging dialogue, and removing barriers to honest communication. By cultivating a climate where people feel psychologically safe and relationally affirmed, organizations can reduce the frequency and intensity of conflict and promote ethical, solution-focused engagement.
3. Facework and Emotional Intelligence
Managing Identity and Emotion in Conflict
In addition to structural and strategic approaches to conflict management, the interpersonal dimension plays a critical role in shaping how conflict unfolds and whether it is resolved constructively. Two key concepts—facework and emotional intelligence—help explain why some conflicts escalate while others invite cooperation. Facework refers to the communicative behaviors individuals use to preserve self-image and protect others’ identities during interaction (Goffman, 1967; Cupach & Metts, 1994). In conflict situations, threats to “face”—such as public criticism, condescension, or exclusion—can trigger defensiveness and resistance, making resolution more difficult. Leaders and team members who practice face-sensitive communication are more likely to maintain respect, foster psychological safety, and avoid identity-based escalation.
Equally important is emotional intelligence, which involves the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one’s own emotions and empathize with the emotions of others (Goleman, 1995). High emotional intelligence supports key conflict management behaviors such as self-regulation, perspective-taking, and relational repair. Individuals with strong EI are better equipped to remain calm under pressure, listen without judgment, and respond with empathy—even when disagreement arises. Research shows that emotional intelligence enhances trust, collaboration, and long-term problem-solving (Edmondson & Lei, 2014; Kellot, 2024). Together, facework and emotional intelligence provide a human-centered foundation for conflict resolution, helping organizations foster cultures of dignity, dialogue, and interpersonal insight.
5 Conflict-Handling Styles
Adapting Approaches to Fit the Situation
Conflict is not one-size-fits-all. While structural and interpersonal strategies can shape the conditions for resolution, the way individuals respond to conflict in the moment—their conflict handling style—often determines whether tensions escalate or transform into collaboration. Organizational communication scholars Kenneth Thomas and Ralph Kilmann developed a widely used framework that identifies five distinct styles of conflict management: avoiding, accommodating, competing, compromising, and collaborating. These styles are based on two dimensions: assertiveness (the degree to which one pursues their own concerns) and cooperativeness (the degree to which one seeks to satisfy others’ concerns) (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974).
Each style has its strengths and limitations, and no single approach is universally effective. Instead, effective conflict managers demonstrate style flexibility—the ability to assess the context, stakes, and relationships involved, and choose the most appropriate response. For example, avoidance may be useful when emotions are high and a cooling-off period is needed, while collaboration is ideal when long-term relationships and creative solutions are at stake. Cultural norms, emotional intelligence, and communication climate also influence which styles are preferred and how they are perceived (Rahim, 2011; Coursera, 2025).
This section explores each of the five conflict handling styles, offering insights into when and how they can be used effectively in organizational life. By understanding these styles, individuals and teams can better navigate disagreements, preserve relationships, and foster ethical, productive dialogue.
1. Avoidance
The avoiding conflict style is characterized by low assertiveness and low cooperativeness. Individuals who adopt this approach tend to withdraw from conflict rather than engage with it directly, often denying that a problem exists or postponing decisions that might provoke disagreement. This style may be driven by discomfort with confrontation, fear of escalation, or personality traits such as a high need for affiliation or harmony. Common expressions include statements like “I don’t think there’s a problem” or “Let’s just move on,” signaling a reluctance to address underlying tensions. While avoidance can be appropriate in situations where the issue is minor, emotions are running high, or timing is poor, it becomes problematic when important concerns are consistently sidestepped. Overuse of this style can lead to unresolved issues, strained relationships, and diminished trust, especially if others perceive the avoider as indifferent or passive-aggressive. Organizational communication research suggests that avoidance may offer short-term relief but often allows conflict to simmer beneath the surface, potentially leading to greater dysfunction over time (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974; Shonk, 2025; Pollack, 2021). Developing emotional intelligence and psychological safety can help individuals move beyond avoidance and engage in more constructive dialogue.
2. Accommodation
The accommodating conflict style is marked by a high level of cooperativeness and low assertiveness. Individuals who use this approach tend to prioritize maintaining harmony and preserving relationships over asserting their own needs. They might say things like, “Let’s do it your way,” or “If it’s important to you, I can go along with it,” reflecting a willingness to concede for the sake of peace (Bennett, 2022).
This style can be effective when the issue at stake is far more important to the other party than to the accommodator, or when showing deference might help build goodwill and trust (AllWin Conflict Resolution Training, 2025). However, habitual accommodation can lead to overlooked personal needs, growing resentment, and the erosion of self-confidence. Over time, consistent self-suppression may create imbalances in the relationship dynamic and leave individuals feeling undervalued (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974).
Organizational communication experts recommend that accommodation be used strategically and sparingly. Balancing empathy with assertiveness through techniques such as boundary-setting and self-reflection can help ensure that accommodation remains a conscious act of compassion rather than a default behavior (Bennett, 2022; AllWin Conflict Resolution Training, 2025).
3. Compromise
The compromising conflict style represents a balanced approach, combining moderate assertiveness with moderate cooperativeness. Individuals who use this style aim to find a mutually acceptable solution by making concessions, often saying things like, “Perhaps I ought to reconsider my initial position,” or “Maybe we can both agree to give in a little” (MT Copeland, 2021). This style is particularly useful when both parties have equal power and the issue is moderately important, allowing for a resolution that partially satisfies everyone involved (CMA Consulting, 2025).
In a compromise, each party gives up something of value to reach a middle ground. A well-known example occurred in 2005 when the Lanesborough Hotel in London mistakenly advertised rooms for £35 instead of £350. Faced with a flood of bookings and a potential public relations crisis, the hotel agreed to honor the rate for up to three nights per guest—demonstrating a strategic compromise that preserved both customer goodwill and financial stability (Horowitz et al., 2006).
While compromise can lead to quick and fair outcomes, it may also result in surface-level solutions that fail to address deeper issues. Overuse of this style can leave parties feeling unsatisfied or resentful if they believe they’ve conceded too much (Niagara Institute, 2021). Experts recommend treating compromise as a temporary fix when time is limited or when maintaining relationships is a priority, but not as a substitute for deeper collaboration (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974; Shonk, 2025).
4. Competition
The competing conflict style is defined by high assertiveness and low cooperativeness. Individuals who adopt this approach prioritize their own goals and outcomes, often pushing for their preferred solution regardless of others’ perspectives or emotional responses. This style is typically characterized by direct, forceful communication and a win-lose mindset, where success is measured by achieving one’s own objectives (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974; Bennett, 2021). People using this style may say things like, “This is the only way forward,” or “I’m not backing down,” reflecting a strong desire to control the outcome.
While competition can be effective in situations requiring quick, decisive action—such as emergencies, ethical dilemmas, or when defending against harmful alternatives—it carries significant relational risks. Overuse of this style may lead to damaged trust, reduced collaboration, and strained interpersonal dynamics (CMA Consulting, 2025; Shonk, 2025). For example, a manager who overrides team input to enforce a policy may achieve short-term clarity but risk long-term disengagement and resentment among staff (Niagara Institute, 2021).
Organizational communication experts caution that the competing style should be used sparingly and strategically. When employed with emotional intelligence and transparency, it can project confidence and protect vital interests. However, when used indiscriminately, it may stifle innovation, escalate conflict, and erode morale (Rahim, 2011; Sorensen, 1999). Leaders are encouraged to balance assertiveness with empathy and to consider alternative styles—such as collaboration or compromise—when relationship-building and shared ownership are critical.
5. Collaboration
The collaborating conflict style is distinguished by high assertiveness and high cooperativeness. Individuals who adopt this approach aim to resolve conflict through open dialogue, mutual respect, and integrative problem solving. Rather than viewing conflict as a win-lose scenario, collaborators seek win-win outcomes by advocating for their own needs while actively listening to and incorporating the concerns of others (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974; Pollack, 2025). This style encourages both parties to challenge ideas—not each other—and to work together toward solutions that satisfy everyone’s core interests.
Collaboration is especially effective when the issue is complex, emotionally charged, or when long-term relationships and sustainable outcomes are at stake (MT Copeland, 2021; CMA Consulting, 2025). For example, consider an employee who wishes to pursue an MBA and requests reduced work hours. Rather than taking rigid positions, both the employee and management can explore alternatives—such as online coursework or tuition support—that honor the employee’s career goals while meeting organizational needs. This integrative approach allows both parties to gain without sacrificing what is personally important.
While collaboration requires time, emotional investment, and skilled facilitation, it often leads to deeper trust, stronger team cohesion, and more innovative solutions (Pollack, 2025; OfficeRnD, 2024). Experts emphasize that collaboration is not merely compromise—it’s a creative process that uncovers shared values and builds lasting agreements.
Which Conflict Style Is Best?
In organizational behavior, there is no universally “correct” way to manage conflict. The most effective approach often depends on the context, the stakes involved, and the personalities of those involved (Shonk, 2025). While each of the five conflict styles—avoiding, accommodating, compromising, competing, and collaborating—has its place, the collaborating style is widely regarded as the most constructive in a broad range of situations. It fosters mutual understanding, encourages creative problem-solving, and strengthens relationships over time (Thomas & Kilmann, 1974; Pollack, 2025).
That said, most individuals tend to default to a dominant style. You might recognize this in a friend who always seeks confrontation or a colleague who consistently backs down. The key to successful conflict management lies in adaptability—the ability to match your style to the situation. For instance, avoiding conflict may be wise when the issue is trivial or emotionally charged, such as ignoring a reckless driver to avoid road rage. On the other hand, when a coworker repeatedly takes credit for your ideas, confrontation may be necessary to protect your professional integrity.
Research also reveals that hierarchical roles influence conflict style preferences. Managers are more likely to adopt a competing or forcing style, while subordinates tend to favor avoiding, accommodating, or compromising (Howat & London, 1980). Moreover, conflict styles can be contagious—individuals often mirror the approach of the person they’re engaging with. If one party is highly assertive or competitive, others may respond in kind, escalating the tension (Valamis, 2025).
Ultimately, the most effective conflict managers are those who can assess the situation, understand the dynamics at play, and strategically select the style that will lead to the best outcome for all parties involved.
What If You Don’t Have Enough Conflict Over Ideas?
Effective conflict management isn’t just about resolving disputes—it’s also about knowing when to encourage healthy disagreement. Many people assume that conflict is inherently negative, a sign that a team or meeting is dysfunctional. But the absence of conflict can be just as problematic. When no one challenges ideas or raises concerns, it may indicate that individuals are withholding their opinions, either out of fear, apathy, or a desire to avoid tension. This silence can lead to suboptimal decisions and missed opportunities for innovation.
In productive group discussions, diverse perspectives are not only expected—they’re essential. When people feel safe to voice dissent, they help identify flaws, refine proposals, and co-create stronger solutions. The key is to keep the conversation focused on the issue, not on personalities. For instance, saying “Jack’s ideas have never worked before” is dismissive and personal. A more constructive approach would be, “This production step uses a degreaser that’s considered hazardous. Can we explore a nontoxic alternative?” This reframes the concern as a shared problem-solving opportunity.
A modern example of the risks of too little conflict can be seen in the early culture of Airbnb. In its rapid growth phase, the company was praised for its collaborative and inclusive environment. However, internal reports later revealed that some teams were reluctant to challenge leadership decisions, especially around controversial topics like guest safety and regulatory compliance. This lack of pushback contributed to delayed responses to serious incidents, prompting public scrutiny and internal restructuring. Airbnb has since made efforts to foster constructive dissent, encouraging employees to speak up and debate ideas openly.
Ultimately, conflict isn’t the enemy—silence is. Organizations thrive when they create psychological safety, normalize disagreement, and train teams to engage in respectful, idea-focused dialogue. As Amy Gallo (2024) notes, “The healthiest teams aren’t the ones that avoid conflict—they’re the ones that know how to use it.”
Harnessing Conflict for Growth
Conflict is not a barrier to success—it’s a catalyst for progress when managed wisely. Each conflict style—avoidance, accommodation, compromise, competition, and collaboration—offers distinct advantages and limitations. The key is not to eliminate conflict, but to understand its dynamics and navigate it with intention. When individuals and organizations embrace open dialogue, match their approach to the situation, and foster psychological safety, they create space for innovation, accountability, and authentic relationships.
Whether you’re confronting a recurring workplace issue or encouraging diverse perspectives in a team setting, effective conflict management transforms disagreement into discovery. And in an era where inclusion, agility, and adaptability are more important than ever, mastering this skill is not just beneficial—it’s essential.
Workplace Strategy Pack
Drawing the Line Between Healthy Conflict and Aggression
Objective: To equip employees with the tools and awareness needed to recognize when workplace conflict shifts from constructive engagement to harmful aggression—and to respond effectively and professionally.
Why It Matters
Conflict is a natural and often necessary part of organizational life. When managed well, it can spark innovation, clarify misunderstandings, and strengthen relationships (Jehn, 1995). However, when conflict escalates into aggression—verbal hostility, intimidation, or personal attacks—it undermines psychological safety, damages trust, and can lead to burnout or turnover (Sutton, 2007).
Understanding the boundary between healthy conflict and aggression empowers employees to:
- Protect their emotional and psychological well-being
- Maintain professional relationships
- Foster a respectful and inclusive workplace culture
- Know when and how to seek support or intervention
Strategy Toolkit
1. Know the Signs of Healthy Conflict
Healthy conflict is issue-focused, respectful, and solution-oriented. It often includes:
- Open disagreement about ideas or processes
- Active listening and turn-taking
- Willingness to compromise or collaborate
- Focus on shared goals, not personal attacks
✅ Example: “I see your point, but I think we should consider another approach based on the data.”
2. Recognize Aggression
Aggression is behavior intended to dominate, intimidate, or harm. It may include:
- Raised voices, sarcasm, or insults
- Dismissive body language or tone
- Personal criticism unrelated to work
- Repeated interruptions or refusal to listen
❌ Example: “You clearly don’t know what you’re doing. This is a waste of time.”
3. Use the Conflict Continuum
Create a mental scale from 1 (constructive disagreement) to 10 (hostile aggression). Rate interactions to assess whether intervention is needed.
Tip: If a conversation feels like a 7 or higher, document it and consider involving a supervisor or HR.
4. Apply Assertive Communication
Assertiveness allows you to stand up for yourself without escalating the conflict.
- Use “I” statements: “I feel uncomfortable when…”
- Set boundaries: “Let’s keep this focused on the issue.”
- Redirect aggression: “I’d like to continue this when we’re both calm.”
5. Seek Mediation or Support
If aggression persists, request a neutral third party to facilitate resolution. Many organizations offer conflict resolution resources or employee assistance programs (EAPs).
Empowerment Tip
You have the right to a workplace where ideas are challenged—but people are respected. Trust your instincts. If a conversation feels unsafe, it probably is. Speaking up early can prevent escalation and protect your team’s culture.
References
Jehn, K. A. (1995). A multimethod examination of the benefits and detriments of intragroup conflict. Administrative Science Quarterly, 40(2), 256–282. https://doi.org/10.2307/2393638
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Discussion Questions
- Identify three strategies for de-escalating a conflict situation—such as avoidance, accommodation, or compromise. What are the potential benefits of each approach? In what types of situations might each strategy be most useful or least effective? How could overreliance on one strategy impact relationships or outcomes?
- Do you approach conflict differently in professional settings than you do with friends or family? What factors influence your approach—such as hierarchy, emotional investment, or risk of repercussions? How does psychological safety (or lack thereof) affect your willingness to engage?
- What conflict-handling style do you tend to use at work—avoiding, accommodating, compromising, competing, or collaborating? How has this style helped or hindered you in specific situations? Can you recall a time when adapting your style might have led to a better outcome?
- Describe a situation where too little conflict led to a suboptimal decision or missed opportunity. What were the warning signs that conflict was being suppressed? How could healthy disagreement have improved the result? What role does psychological safety play in encouraging open dialogue?
Section 10.5: The Power of Negotiation in Organizational Life
Learning Objectives
After reading the following chapter, you should be able to do the following:
- Identify and describe the core stages of negotiation—from preparation to resolution—and recognize how each phase contributes to successful outcomes.
- Examine a variety of negotiation techniques including direct, integrative, and distributive approaches, and determine their application based on context, goals, and stakeholder dynamics.
- Recognize frequent missteps such as poor communication, unchecked assumptions, or escalation tendencies, and explore strategies to avoid or address these challenges.
- nvestigate the role of third-party negotiation formats—such as mediation, arbitration, and hybrid systems—and assess their benefits, limitations, and ethical considerations in organizational contexts.
- Learn strategic and emotional tools for navigating high-conflict, high-stakes scenarios, including emotional regulation, procedural neutrality, and culturally responsive communication methods.
- Reflect on how cultural norms, power imbalances, and organizational structures shape negotiation experiences and outcomes, and how to adapt strategies accordingly.
In every organization, negotiation is more than a transactional exchange—it’s a vital communication skill that shapes relationships, resolves disputes, and drives strategic progress. Whether you’re advocating for a budget increase, navigating team conflict, or striking a deal with a client, your ability to negotiate can determine success or setback.
This section explores negotiation as both art and process. It begins by breaking down the five phases of negotiation—from investigation and preparation to closure—and introduces strategic models that influence outcomes. You’ll examine the differences between distributive and integrative approaches, uncover behavioral and cognitive traps that derail negotiations, and discover how emotion, ego, and expectation shape results.
In today’s complex organizations, negotiation doesn’t always happen between two people at a table—it may involve cross-cultural teams, competing power dynamics, or external facilitators. That’s why we also delve into third-party negotiation, including mediation and arbitration, and examine the communication challenges unique to crisis situations and diverse cultural contexts.
Through this section, you’ll learn not just how to negotiate, but how to negotiate ethically, adaptively, and effectively—equipping yourself to lead with confidence and collaborate with clarity.
5 Phases of Negotiation
Phase One: Preparation
Effective negotiation in organizational contexts unfolds through a series of interdependent phases, each requiring distinct communicative competencies and strategic awareness. The process begins with Preparation, a foundational step that precedes formal investigation. In this phase, negotiators clarify their objectives, assess stakeholder interests, and identify potential constraints. Preparation also involves developing a strategic framework, including the identification of one’s Best Alternative to a Negotiated Agreement (BATNA)—a critical benchmark that informs decision-making and strengthens bargaining power (Fisher, Ury, & Patton, 2011; Malhotra & Bazerman, 2007). A strong BATNA enables negotiators to evaluate offers against viable alternatives, reducing susceptibility to pressure and enhancing confidence at the table (Cote, 2023).
Phase Two: Investigation
Following preparation, the Investigation phase centers on information gathering. Negotiators examine the context, history, and relational dynamics surrounding the issue, often conducting internal audits and stakeholder analyses to uncover underlying interests and priorities (Thompson, 2012). This phase is not limited to external research—it also requires introspective clarity about one’s own values, limits, and desired outcomes (Steinberg, as cited in Webber, 1998). Organizational communication scholars emphasize that this stage is often overlooked, yet it is essential for framing the negotiation as a collaborative problem-solving opportunity rather than a zero-sum contest (Gelfand et al., 2001).
Phase Three: Information Exchange
The third phase, Information Exchange, replaces the traditional “Presentation” label to better reflect the dialogic nature of modern negotiation. Here, parties share positions, clarify expectations, and begin to build rapport. This phase is shaped by both formal offers and informal communication, including verbal cues, tone, and nonverbal behaviors (Ma, 2007). Effective negotiators use this stage to uncover shared interests, establish trust, and assess the other party’s constraints and motivations. According to organizational behavior research, open and transparent exchange fosters integrative outcomes and reduces misinterpretation (Shell, 2006; Wheeler, 2023).
Phase Four: Bargaining and Problem Solving
Next is the Bargaining and Problem Solving phase, where mutual adjustment occurs. Negotiators engage in give-and-take, making concessions and exploring creative solutions that satisfy both parties’ interests. This phase demands emotional intelligence, active listening, and strategic framing to manage tension and avoid positional entrenchment (Wheeler, 2023; Thompson, 1991). Organizational communication scholars note that bargaining is not merely transactional—it is relational, shaped by power dynamics, cultural norms, and the ability to co-create value (Lee, 2025).
Phase Five: Closure and Implementation
Finally, the Closure and Implementation phase formalizes the agreement and sets the stage for execution. This includes documenting terms, establishing accountability mechanisms, and ensuring mutual understanding of deliverables. Closure is not just about signing a contract—it is about sustaining commitment and preparing for future interactions. Negotiators should also reflect on the process to identify lessons learned and improve future performance (Cote, 2023; Lax & Sebenius, 1986).
Workplace Strategy Pack
Negotiating for a Higher Salary
Objective: To empower employees with the knowledge, timing, and communication strategies needed to confidently and effectively negotiate for a higher salary.
Why It Matters
Salary negotiation is not just about money—it’s about recognition, equity, and long-term career satisfaction. Employees who negotiate strategically are more likely to:
- Achieve fair compensation aligned with market value and performance
- Signal confidence and self-advocacy
- Reduce future income disparities (especially for women and underrepresented groups)
- Strengthen their professional identity and career trajectory
Avoiding negotiation can lead to long-term financial disadvantages and feelings of undervaluation (Babcock & Laschever, 2003).
Strategy Toolkit
1. Know When to Negotiate
Timing is critical. Ideal moments include:
- After a successful performance review
- When taking on new responsibilities or roles
- Upon receiving a job offer
- When market data shows your role is underpaid
Tip: Avoid negotiating during periods of organizational instability unless your role is critical to continuity.
2. Do Your Homework
Gather data to support your request:
- Industry salary benchmarks (e.g., Bureau of Labor Statistics, Glassdoor)
- Internal pay ranges, if available
- Your recent accomplishments and measurable impact
Example: “Based on market data and my contributions to the Q3 revenue increase, I’d like to discuss adjusting my compensation.”
3. Frame the Conversation Strategically
Use persuasive, professional language that aligns your request with organizational goals.
- Focus on value: “I’ve consistently exceeded targets and taken on leadership roles.”
- Be specific: “I’m seeking an adjustment to $X to reflect my expanded responsibilities.”
- Stay collaborative: “I’d like to explore how we can align my compensation with my contributions.”
4. Practice Negotiation Scenarios
Rehearse with a trusted colleague or mentor. Anticipate objections and prepare responses.
Objection: “We don’t have budget flexibility.” Response: “I understand. Could we explore a phased increase or performance-based incentive?”
5. Know Your Alternatives
If negotiation stalls, consider other forms of compensation:
- Additional PTO
- Professional development funding
- Flexible work arrangements
- Title changes or leadership opportunities
Empowerment Tip
Negotiating isn’t confrontational—it’s communicative. You’re not demanding; you’re advocating. Research shows that assertive, well-prepared employees are more likely to receive positive outcomes without damaging relationships (Craver, 2012).
References
Babcock, L., & Laschever, S. (2003). Women don’t ask: Negotiation and the gender divide. Princeton University Press.
Craver, C. B. (2012). Effective legal negotiation and settlement (7th ed.). LexisNexis.
Kolb, D. M., & Williams, J. (2003). Everyday negotiation: Navigating the hidden agendas in bargaining. Jossey-Bass.
Thompson, L. (2012). The mind and heart of the negotiator (5th ed.). Pearson Education.
Putnam, L. L., & Roloff, M. E. (1992). Communication perspectives on negotiation. In L. L. Putnam & M. E. Roloff (Eds.), Communication and negotiation (pp. 1–17). SAGE Publications.
Distributive Negotiation Strategy
Claiming Value in Competitive Contexts
The distributive approach to negotiation—often referred to as positional bargaining—is grounded in the assumption of a fixed resource pool. Negotiators perceive the situation as a zero-sum game, where one party’s gain is inherently the other’s loss (Pruitt & Rubin, 1986; Patton, 2015). This “fixed-pie” mindset leads each party to maximize their share of the value, often through competitive tactics such as anchoring, withholding information, and strategic concessions (Malhotra & Bazerman, 2007).
For example, in budget negotiations between departments, an increase in marketing’s allocation may necessitate a proportional decrease in R&D’s funding. While this model is appropriate for one-time, transactional negotiations with limited relational stakes, it can constrain creativity and damage long-term collaboration (Flynn, 2023). Organizational communication scholars caution that overreliance on distributive tactics may escalate conflict and erode trust, especially in team-based or decentralized environments (Boni & Weingart, 2012).
Integrative Negotiation Strategy
Creating Value Through Collaboration and Shared Interests
The integrative approach—also known as interest-based bargaining or win–win negotiation—emphasizes collaboration, mutual gain, and creative problem-solving. Rather than dividing a fixed pie, parties work together to expand the pie, uncovering shared interests and generating solutions that satisfy both sides (Fisher, Ury, & Patton, 2011; Lasky, 2024).
This strategy begins with a cooperative stance, where negotiators prioritize relationship-building and transparency. Active listening plays a central role, fostering trust and enabling deeper understanding of each party’s goals and constraints (Jäckel et al., 2024). Techniques such as logrolling, bridge solutions, and equal compromising help negotiators trade across multiple issues and create packages that deliver mutual value (Mirra, 2024).
Despite its advantages, integrative negotiation is not the default outcome. Research shows that only 20% of negotiations result in integrative agreements, even when conditions allow for them (Thompson & Hrebec, 1996). Experience, preparation, and emotional intelligence are key predictors of success in this approach (Thompson, 1990; Wheeler, 2023).
Insider Edge
Keeping Your Cool & Navigating Conflict Without a Mediator
Objective: To equip employees with the interpersonal communication skills and emotional intelligence needed to resolve workplace conflict constructively—without escalating to third-party mediation.
Why It Matters
Conflict is inevitable in dynamic workplaces. When handled well, it can lead to stronger relationships, better decisions, and increased trust. However, unmanaged conflict can spiral into resentment, disengagement, or formal intervention. Learning to resolve issues independently:
- Builds credibility and leadership potential
- Preserves team cohesion and psychological safety
- Reduces reliance on formal conflict resolution channels
- Promotes a culture of accountability and open dialogue
Employees who navigate conflict effectively are seen as emotionally intelligent and professionally mature (Goleman, 2006).
Strategy Toolkit
1. Pause Before You React
Emotional regulation is key. Take a moment to breathe, reflect, and assess the situation before responding.
Tip: Use the “Name it to tame it” strategy—label your emotion internally (e.g., frustration, embarrassment) to reduce its intensity (Siegel, 2010).
2. Use Assertive, Not Aggressive, Communication
Assertiveness respects both your needs and the other person’s perspective.
- “I feel concerned when deadlines are missed because it affects our team’s goals.”
- Avoid blame: Focus on behaviors, not character.
3. Practice Active Listening
Show genuine interest in the other person’s viewpoint. Use paraphrasing and clarifying questions:
- “So you’re saying the timeline felt unrealistic?”
- “Can you help me understand what led to that decision?”
This reduces defensiveness and opens space for mutual understanding (Rogers, 1951).
4. Find Common Ground
Shift from positions (“I want X”) to interests (“I need X because…”). Look for shared goals or values.
Example: “We both want the project to succeed—how can we adjust the workflow to support that?”
5. Agree on Next Steps
End the conversation with a clear, mutual agreement—even if it’s just to revisit the issue later.
- “Let’s try this approach for a week and check in next Friday.”
- Document agreements if needed to ensure accountability.
Empowerment Tip
You don’t need a title to lead—just the courage to communicate clearly and calmly. Conflict resolution is a skill, not a personality trait. The more you practice, the more confident and respected you’ll become.
References
Goleman, D. (2006). Social intelligence: The new science of human relationships. Bantam Books.
Rogers, C. R. (1951). Client-centered therapy: Its current practice, implications, and theory. Houghton Mifflin.
Siegel, D. J. (2010). The mindful therapist: A clinician’s guide to mindsight and neural integration. W. W. Norton & Company.
Waldron, V. R. (2012). Communicating emotion at work. Polity Press.
Putnam, L. L., & Poole, M. S. (1987). Conflict and negotiation. In F. M. Jablin et al. (Eds.), Handbook of organizational communication (pp. 549–599). SAGE Publications.
Avoiding Common Mistakes in Negotiation
Recognizing Biases, Managing Emotions, and Refining Strategy
Even the most experienced negotiators are vulnerable to subtle missteps that derail outcomes. These mistakes often stem from predictable patterns of thought, emotion, and behavior. By understanding and addressing these pitfalls, negotiators can improve decision-making, foster collaboration, and achieve more favorable results. This section reframes common negotiation errors into three categories: cognitive biases, emotional traps, and strategic errors, offering a more teachable and research-aligned framework.
Cognitive Biases
Cognitive biases are mental shortcuts that distort perception and judgment, often operating below conscious awareness. One of the most pervasive is anchoring bias, where negotiators fixate on the first offer or number presented, allowing it to disproportionately influence subsequent decisions (Tversky & Kahneman, 1974). Similarly, confirmation bias leads individuals to seek out information that supports their preexisting beliefs while ignoring contradictory evidence, limiting creative problem-solving (Mirra, 2024). Overconfidence bias—the tendency to overestimate one’s abilities or leverage—can result in unrealistic expectations and missed opportunities (Bazerman & Moore, 2012). These biases are exacerbated under time pressure or cognitive overload, when negotiators default to intuitive “System 1” thinking rather than deliberate “System 2” reasoning (Stanovich & West, 2000; Wheeler, 2023). Cultivating self-awareness and engaging in reflective preparation are essential strategies for mitigating these distortions.
Emotional Traps
Negotiation is not purely rational—it is deeply emotional. Emotions such as anger, fear, and grief can cloud judgment and escalate conflict. For instance, anger may lead to impulsive decisions or punitive tactics, while grief—often triggered by perceived loss—can cause negotiators to overpay or concede prematurely (Lerner et al., 2004). Emotional contagion, where one party’s mood influences the other, can also derail collaborative efforts. Moreover, nonverbal blindness—the inability to accurately read emotional cues—limits a negotiator’s ability to respond empathetically and strategically (Hofmann, 2023). Emotional intelligence, including self-regulation and empathy, is a critical skill for navigating these traps. Taking breaks during heated exchanges, practicing active listening, and reframing emotionally charged narratives can help restore composure and focus.
Strategic Errors
Strategic missteps often stem from poor planning or flawed assumptions. One common error is failing to negotiate at all—accepting the first offer without exploring alternatives, which signals passivity and forfeits potential value (Shell, 2006). Another is negotiating against oneself, where premature concessions weaken one’s position before the other party has responded (Flynn, 2023). Cherry-picking—where the other party reopens settled issues late in the process—can trigger the sunk cost fallacy, causing negotiators to accept unfavorable terms simply because they’ve invested time and effort (Bazerman & Neale, 1992). Additionally, lack of preparation remains the most cited error in negotiation literature. Entering a negotiation without clear goals, stakeholder analysis, or contingency planning leaves negotiators vulnerable to manipulation and missed opportunities (Malhotra & Bazerman, 2007). Strategic discipline—grounded in thorough preparation, scenario planning, and clear walk-away points—is essential for avoiding these pitfalls.
When All Else Fails: Third-Party Negotiations
When direct negotiation fails or tensions escalate beyond productive dialogue, organizations often turn to third-party negotiation strategies to stabilize conflict and restore collaboration. These approaches include Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) methods—such as mediation, arbitration, and hybrid models—as well as crisis negotiation protocols designed for high-risk, emotionally volatile situations. These options allow conflicts to be resolved outside of formal litigation and are increasingly recognized for their efficiency, confidentiality, and potential to preserve working relationships.
Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR)
ADR refers to structured methods that involve a neutral third party guiding disputing individuals or groups toward resolution. For example, companies like Eastman Kodak have implemented internal ADR panels to address discrimination claims and reduce escalation (Deutsch, 2004). Common ADR formats include mediation, where the facilitator assists participants in reaching a voluntary, mutually agreeable outcome, and arbitration, where a neutral arbitrator makes a binding decision after hearing both sides (American Arbitration Association, 2025). In mediation, the emphasis lies on active listening, clarifying misunderstandings, and empowering parties to design their own solutions. This method is especially effective in emotionally sensitive or value-based conflicts, as it helps restore trust and opens pathways for creative problem-solving (Layne, 1999; Lee, 2025).
In contrast, arbitration provides a more formalized process in which the arbitrator controls the outcome. Commonly used in union-management disputes and contract conflicts, this approach streamlines resolution while reducing public exposure, but it removes the flexibility of jointly crafted solutions. Hybrid models like med-arb, which blend elements of mediation and arbitration, are gaining traction in contexts where both control and closure are desired.
Crisis Negotiation Strategies
In particularly volatile or high-stakes scenarios, organizations may also need to apply crisis negotiation strategies. Drawing from law enforcement and emergency communication models, crisis negotiation involves specialized planning, emotional containment, and strategic messaging designed to de-escalate and re-engage parties in conflict. Preparation is crucial: negotiators must assess the nature and scope of the crisis, identify core stakeholders, and establish clear procedural boundaries (Shell, 1999; Park University, 2024). Ground rules—including commitments to transparency, ethical behavior, and consistent follow-through—build the trust needed to prevent escalation.
During crises, emotional regulation becomes even more important. Tactics such as slowing down the interaction, acknowledging emotions openly, and reframing narratives help prevent breakdowns in communication (Cambria, 2025). These strategies have been used effectively in responding to reputational risks, workplace crises, and leadership disputes. When executed with emotional intelligence and procedural rigor, crisis negotiation not only mitigates immediate harm but can strengthen long-term organizational resilience.
Cultural and Power Dynamics
Finally, it’s essential to consider the impact of cultural and power dynamics in third-party negotiations. Cultural norms influence how conflict is perceived and what resolutions are considered fair. Power imbalances—whether due to hierarchy, access to resources, or social privilege—must be addressed explicitly to ensure equitable outcomes. Using culturally responsive mediators, ensuring equal voice during proceedings, and carefully timing interventions are all part of responsible conflict facilitation (Gelfand et al., 2001; Bulei, 2021).
Taken together, these third-party and crisis strategies offer organizations a robust toolkit for navigating the most difficult and emotionally complex conflicts. When direct negotiation no longer serves, knowing how—and when—to engage external support can make all the difference.
Workplace Strategy Toolkit
Knowing When to Add a Mediator to Conflict Negotiation
Objective: To help employees recognize the signs that a workplace conflict has escalated beyond informal resolution and requires the support of a neutral third-party mediator.
Why It Matters
While many workplace conflicts can be resolved through direct communication, some disputes become entrenched, emotionally charged, or structurally complex. In these cases, continuing without mediation can:
- Deepen interpersonal rifts
- Disrupt team cohesion and productivity
- Lead to formal grievances or legal action
- Undermine psychological safety and organizational trust
Research shows that timely mediation can restore dialogue, promote fairness, and prevent escalation (Munduate, Medina, & Euwema, 2022).
Strategy Toolkit: When & How to Add a Mediator
1. Recognize the Threshold for Mediation
Consider mediation when:
- Direct negotiation has failed repeatedly
- Emotions are running high and communication has broken down
- Power imbalances prevent open dialogue
- The conflict affects more than two people or has organizational implications
- There’s a risk of retaliation, exclusion, or reputational harm
Tip: Mediation is especially useful in relational conflicts, where personal values, identity, or trust are at stake (Euwema et al., 2019).
2. Frame the Request Professionally
Approach HR or leadership with a solution-oriented mindset:
“We’ve tried to resolve this directly, but we’re at an impasse. I believe a neutral facilitator could help us move forward constructively.”
3. Prepare for Mediation
- Gather documentation of previous attempts to resolve the issue
- Clarify your goals and desired outcomes
- Be ready to listen and compromise
4. Understand the Mediator’s Role
Mediators are not judges—they guide dialogue, ensure fairness, and help parties reach mutual understanding. They may be internal (HR-trained) or external professionals.
5. Follow Through Post-Mediation
- Honor agreements and timelines
- Maintain respectful communication
- Request follow-up sessions if needed
Empowerment Tip
Seeking mediation is not a sign of weakness—it’s a strategic move toward resolution. It shows emotional intelligence, professionalism, and a commitment to collaboration.
References
Munduate, L., Medina, F. J., & Euwema, M. C. (2022). Mediation: Understanding a constructive conflict management tool in the workplace. Journal of Work and Organizational Psychology, 38(3), 165–173. https://doi.org/10.5093/jwop2022a20
Mayer, B. (1987). The dynamics of power in mediation and negotiation. Mediation Quarterly, 16, 75–86. https://doi.org/10.1002/crq.39019871610
Lewicki, R. J., Barry, B., & Saunders, D. M. (2025). Essentials of negotiation (6th ed.). McGraw-Hill Professional.
Flynn, S. I. (2023). Managing conflict within organizations through negotiations. EBSCO Research Starters. https://www.ebsco.com/research-starters/business-and-management/managing-conflict-within-organizations-through
In an age where organizational conflicts can swiftly escalate and ripple across reputations, teams, and stakeholders, crisis negotiation emerges as an essential discipline—one that marries emotional intelligence with strategic communication and procedural integrity. Far from being merely reactive, effective crisis negotiation reframes conflict as a moment of transformation: a chance to rebuild trust, address systemic vulnerabilities, and realign priorities. When executed with foresight, empathy, and cultural fluency, these strategies do more than resolve disputes—they lay the groundwork for a more resilient, inclusive, and adaptive organizational culture.
Insider Edge
When Your Superior Refuses Mediation
Objective: To equip employees with strategies for managing workplace conflict when a superior declines to participate in third-party mediation, while preserving professionalism, psychological safety, and organizational integrity.
Why It Matters
Power dynamics in hierarchical relationships often complicate conflict resolution. When a superior refuses mediation:
- It may signal a breakdown in psychological safety
- Employees can feel silenced or powerless
- The conflict may escalate or become institutionalized
- Organizational justice and trust may erode
Research shows that unresolved relational conflict with superiors can lead to burnout, disengagement, and turnover (Brummans, Higham, & Cooren, 2022; von Feigenblatt, 2021).
Strategy Toolkit: Navigating a Refusal
1. Reframe the Request
Instead of framing mediation as a challenge to authority, present it as a collaborative tool:
“I believe a facilitated conversation could help us align better and move forward productively.”
2. Document the Process
Maintain a respectful record of:
- Attempts to resolve the issue
- Communication tone and content
- Impact on work performance or well-being
This creates a trail of professionalism and protects against retaliation.
3. Seek Alternative Support
If mediation is refused, consider:
- Speaking with HR or an ombudsperson
- Requesting a facilitated dialogue or coaching session
- Using internal grievance procedures or employee assistance programs
4. Use Strategic Communication
Apply assertive communication techniques:
- “I” statements to express impact
- Active listening to reduce defensiveness
- Neutral language to maintain professionalism
5. Know Your Rights
Familiarize yourself with organizational policies and labor protections. If the conflict involves harassment, discrimination, or retaliation, escalate through formal channels.
Empowerment Tip
Your voice matters—even when power dynamics make it hard to speak up. Seeking resolution is not insubordination; it’s leadership. You’re modeling emotional intelligence and advocating for a healthier workplace.
References
Brummans, B. H. J. M., Higham, L., & Cooren, F. (2022). The work of conflict mediation: Actors, vectors, and communicative relationality. Human Relations, 75(4), 764–791. https://doi.org/10.1177/0018726721994180
von Feigenblatt, O. F. (2021). Mediation for management: Dealing with conflict in the workplace. Innovaciones de Negocios, 18(35), 113–119. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/356776269
Hiltrop, J. M. (1988). Third-party mediation: Some functional and strategic considerations. Group Analysis, 21(1), 9–19. https://doi.org/10.1177/0533316488211002
Lewicki, R. J., Barry, B., & Saunders, D. M. (2025). Essentials of negotiation (6th ed.). McGraw-Hill Professional.
Discussion Questions
1. How can organizations determine when it’s time to shift from direct negotiation to third-party involvement, and what risks might be associated with delaying that decision?
2. In what ways do emotional intelligence and psychological containment play a role in de-escalating high-conflict situations during crisis negotiation? Can these skills be taught effectively across organizational levels?
3. How might cultural norms and power dynamics influence the success—or failure—of crisis and third-party negotiations within diverse organizations? What strategies can address these challenges proactively?
4. Reflecting on the integration of Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) and crisis strategies, how can organizations build internal systems that prevent conflict escalation and foster long-term resilience?
Section 10.6: The Role of Ethics and National Culture
Learning Objectives
After reading this chapter, you should be able to do the following:
- Examine how ethical principles—such as honesty, transparency, and fairness—impact negotiation outcomes, trust-building, and long-term professional relationships.
- Reflect on everyday situations (e.g., team projects, job offers, roommate agreements) and assess how ethical decision-making can guide actions and improve outcomes.
- Explore how cultural norms, communication styles, and conflict tolerances vary across global contexts, and how these differences affect negotiation behavior and expectations.
- Learn to adapt negotiation approaches based on cultural cues, high- vs. low-context communication, and trust-building traditions to foster inclusive, respectful dialogue.
- Consider how cultural perspectives on negotiation may conflict with personal or organizational ethics, and explore methods for resolving these dilemmas constructively.
In today’s interconnected and reputation-driven world, ethical negotiation is not just a moral ideal—it’s a strategic necessity. While hardball tactics may be legally permissible, they often violate ethical norms and damage long-term relationships. Ethical missteps—such as deception, manipulation, or excessive pressure—can erode trust, provoke retaliation, and tarnish your reputation as a negotiator (Mirra, 2024).
As J. Paul Getty once said, “You must never try to make all the money that’s in a deal. Let the other fellow make some money too…” This principle still resonates in modern business and campus settings alike. Whether you’re negotiating a group project role, a roommate agreement, or an internship offer, fairness and transparency matter.
Ethical negotiation involves:
- Honesty: Share relevant information truthfully.
- Promise-keeping: Follow through on commitments.
- Empathy and respect: Apply the Platinum Rule—treat others the way they want to be treated (Stark & Flaherty, 2003).
For college students, this might mean not lowballing a peer during a textbook resale or not ghosting a team member after agreeing to collaborate. Ethical behavior builds credibility and fosters future opportunities.
Negotiation in Cross-Cultural Communication
Cultural norms shape how people perceive conflict, communicate, and build trust. In cross-cultural negotiations, misunderstanding these norms can lead to breakdowns—even when intentions are good.
Conflict Tolerance
Cultures vary in their comfort with direct confrontation. For example:
- Japan and South Korea emphasize harmony and indirect communication (Lebra, 1976).
- Germany and the U.S. often view conflict as a productive tool for problem-solving (Tinsley, 1998).
A college sophomore from Missouri might be used to open debate in class, while an international student from Thailand may prefer subtle disagreement. Recognizing these differences helps avoid misinterpretation.
Communication Styles
In high-context cultures (e.g., Japan, China), meaning is often conveyed through tone, silence, and nonverbal cues. In low-context cultures (e.g., U.S., Germany), clarity and directness are valued (Adair et al., 2007).
For instance, American students may jump straight into negotiation over club budgets, while Chinese students might begin with small talk to build rapport. Misreading these cues can derail collaboration.
Relationship Building
In many cultures, trust precedes business. In Brazil, pushing negotiations during Carnival was seen as disrespectful, damaging relationships (Teague, 2006). Similarly, in China, nodding may signal attentiveness—not agreement (Hannon, 2006).
College students working on international group projects should avoid rushing decisions and instead invest time in relationship-building—perhaps through shared meals, informal chats, or collaborative brainstorming.
Cultural Intelligence in Practice
To navigate ethical and cultural complexities, negotiators must develop cultural intelligence (CQ)—the ability to adapt across cultural contexts. This includes:
- Awareness of your own biases and assumptions.
- Knowledge of cultural norms and values.
- Skills to adjust communication and behavior accordingly.
For example, a student negotiating a study abroad housing agreement in Spain may need to adjust expectations around punctuality, formality, and personal space.
Conclusion
In the evolving landscape of global communication and collaboration, understanding the ethical and cultural dimensions of negotiation is no longer optional—it’s essential. Whether navigating campus clubs, internships, or international partnerships, college students must cultivate trust, empathy, and cultural awareness to succeed in diverse and dynamic environments. Ethical negotiation fosters credibility and long-term influence, while cultural intelligence empowers individuals to engage respectfully across differences. Together, these principles form the foundation of effective, inclusive, and future-ready negotiation strategies—ones that not only close deals but strengthen relationships.
Insider Edge
Navigating Workplace Conflict Abroad
Objective: To empower employees working internationally to manage workplace conflict effectively when local customs, laws, and expectations differ from their own, and to help them determine culturally appropriate strategies for resolution.
Why It Matters
Conflict in a foreign workplace can feel disorienting. Cultural norms around hierarchy, communication, and confrontation vary widely. Missteps may unintentionally escalate tensions or damage relationships. Understanding local expectations is essential for:
- Preserving professional credibility
- Avoiding legal or reputational risks
- Building trust across cultural boundaries
- Ensuring fair and respectful resolution
Research shows that cultural values such as power distance, individualism vs. collectivism, and uncertainty avoidance shape how conflict is perceived and managed (Stojanovska & Velichkovska, 2020; Wu & Du-Babcock, 2021).
Strategy Toolkit: Conflict Navigation Across Cultures
1. Learn the Local Norms
- Research the host country’s cultural dimensions (e.g., Hofstede’s model)
- Understand how directness, hierarchy, and emotional expression are viewed
- Consult local colleagues or HR for guidance on conflict protocols
2. Adjust Your Communication Style
- In high-context cultures (e.g., Japan, UAE), indirect communication may be preferred
- In low-context cultures (e.g., Germany, USA), clarity and assertiveness are valued
- Use culturally appropriate greetings, tone, and body language
3. Know Your Legal Rights
- Labor laws and dispute resolution mechanisms vary by country
- Some countries mandate internal mediation or arbitration before legal action
- Seek advice from HR or legal counsel familiar with local regulations
4. Build Cultural Bridges
- Use inclusive language and show respect for local customs
- Frame conflict resolution as a shared goal, not a personal grievance
- Consider involving a culturally competent mediator or interpreter
5. Reflect and Adapt
- Ask: “How might my cultural lens be shaping my interpretation of this conflict?”
- Be open to alternative conflict styles (e.g., compromise vs. confrontation)
- Practice empathy and curiosity over judgment
Empowerment Tip
You don’t have to abandon your values to adapt culturally. Think of it as expanding your toolkit—not replacing it. Cultural agility is a leadership skill that builds bridges and earns respect.
References
Stojanovska, S., & Velichkovska, K. (2020). Communication differences and conflict resolution in international business environments. EMAN Conference Proceedings, 85–94. https://eman-conference.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/02/EMAN.S.P.2020.85.pdf
Wu, L.-Y., & Du-Babcock, B. (2021). A comparative analysis of conflict management styles between local and expatriate managers in Hong Kong-based multinational corporations. Business Communication Research and Practice, 4(1), 14–27. https://doi.org/10.22682/bcrp.2021.4.1.14
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Hofstede, G. (1980). Culture’s consequences: International differences in work-related values. Sage Publications.
Discussion Questions
- In negotiation, should the goal be maximizing personal gain, or building mutual benefit? How do ethical principles—such as fairness, empathy, and transparency—shape the outcome and long-term impact of negotiations? What are the risks of pursuing economic advantage at the expense of ethical behavior?
- How do cultural norms shape negotiation strategies across different regions of the world? What have you noticed in how people from different cultures approach conflict, trust-building, and decision-making? Think about any personal experiences you’ve had—perhaps in school, work, or travel. What went well? What misunderstandings occurred? What might you do differently next time?
- Why is cultural intelligence (CQ) vital for effective negotiation in diverse environments? How can adapting to different communication styles, expectations, and cultural contexts improve the quality of negotiation outcomes? What tools or habits can help you strengthen your CQ?
- Can ethical behavior and cultural sensitivity conflict during a negotiation? What should you do when a strategy considered “normal” in one culture clashes with ethical expectations in another? How can you find balance between respecting cultural norms and upholding personal and organizational values?
Section 10.7: Spotlighht
Organizational Conflict and Leadership Breakdown in St. Louis Public Schools
The 2024 conflict within St. Louis Public Schools (SLPS) under Superintendent Dr. Keisha Scarlett’s leadership represents a textbook case of organizational dysfunction fueled by communication breakdowns, leadership misalignment, and competing conflict-handling styles. The crisis began with a dramatic financial shift—from a $17 million surplus to a $35 million deficit—and escalated with allegations of unauthorized spending, hiring irregularities, and a lack of board oversight. These issues created a volatile environment where trust eroded between leadership, board members, and the broader community (St. Louis Public Radio, 2024).
Several potential causes of conflict emerged during Scarlett’s tenure. First, structural conflict arose from unclear boundaries between the superintendent’s authority and the school board’s oversight. Scarlett reportedly implemented new salary structures and made high-level hires without board approval, violating established protocols (FOX 2, 2024). Second, interpersonal conflict developed between board members, particularly when Emily Hubbard accused board leadership of coercion and suppressing dissent. Finally, cultural conflict surfaced as stakeholders questioned the transparency and inclusivity of Scarlett’s leadership style, especially as she brought in former colleagues from Seattle, raising concerns about favoritism and insularity (STLPR, 2024).
The conflict-handling styles of key figures varied significantly. Scarlett appeared to adopt an avoiding or competing style—making unilateral decisions and resisting engagement with critics, even refusing to attend her termination hearing in protest of what she called a lack of due process (KSDK, 2024). In contrast, board member Emily Hubbard used a confronting or collaborative style, publicly calling for leadership resignations and acknowledging her own role in approving controversial hires. Mayor Tishaura Jones, meanwhile, employed a compromising style—calling for a state audit and urging transparency while avoiding direct alignment with any one faction (KSDS, 2024).
Scarlett’s reliance on a small “inner circle” of trusted hires—many of whom had worked with her in Seattle—had a profound impact on SLPS’s corporate culture. This insular leadership model created perceptions of exclusivity and favoritism, undermining morale and trust among long-standing staff. The audit revealed that several of these hires received unapproved salary increases and were involved in decision-making processes that bypassed standard governance channels (St. Louis Public Radio, 2024). Such a closed-loop leadership structure often leads to groupthink and weakens the organization’s ability to self-correct through diverse perspectives.
From an organizational communication standpoint, the SLPS crisis illustrates the dangers of opaque leadership, misaligned authority, and inconsistent messaging. The lack of transparent dialogue between the superintendent, board, and public created a vacuum filled by speculation, mistrust, and political maneuvering. Effective conflict resolution in such settings requires open channels of communication, shared governance, and culturally competent leadership—elements that were largely absent during this period.
Ultimately, the SLPS conflict underscores the importance of ethical leadership, inclusive communication, and accountability in public institutions. As the district moves forward under interim leadership, rebuilding trust will require not only structural reforms but also a renewed commitment to transparency and collaborative decision-making.
References
FOX 2. (2024, December 10). SLPS release findings from audit of former superintendent. https://fox2now.com/news/missouri/st-louis-public-schools-release-key-findings-from-internal-audit/
KSDK. (2024, October 16). SLPS board fires superintendent for cause. https://www.ksdk.com/article/news/education/slps-fires-former-superintendent-for-cause-budget-controversy/63-974c8605-139b-487b-808d-3d68c06e4cd6
St. Louis Public Radio. (2024, December 10). Report: Former SLPS superintendent misused district funds and violated hiring practices. https://www.stlpr.org/news-briefs/2024-12-10/former-slps-superintendent-misused-district-funds-violated-hiring-practices
Discussion Questions
- What potential causes of conflict existed at St Louis Public Schools during Bernard Scarlett’s administration?
- What might have happened if Scarlett, Hubbard or Jones’ had been prone to a different conflict-handling style?
- How did having a small “inner circle” of leadership affect the corporate culture at St Louis Public Schools?
- What responsibility did the board of directors have to detect and confront the problems at St Louis Public Schools?
Section 10.8: Conclusion
Conflict in the workplace spans a wide spectrum—from minor irritations to severe, even violent, disruptions. Yet, when managed constructively, conflict can fuel creativity, drive innovation, and strengthen organizational resilience. Conversely, unresolved conflict can paralyze operations and erode morale. Within organizations, conflict often arises from structural complexities, such as matrix systems that assign multiple supervisors to one employee, leading to competing demands. Resource scarcity and competition among teams can further intensify tensions, while personality differences and communication breakdowns frequently trigger interpersonal and intrapersonal conflict.
Effectively addressing conflict requires a nuanced approach. No single method suits every situation; instead, resolution strategies vary in their emphasis on cooperation versus competitiveness. The key lies in selecting the right method for the context at hand.
Negotiation plays a central role in conflict resolution and other critical organizational processes. Strong negotiation skills can be transformative. Successful negotiations typically unfold in five phases: investigation, presentation, bargaining, and closure. Avoiding common pitfalls—such as accepting the first offer, allowing ego or emotion to dominate, setting unrealistic expectations, or repeating past mistakes—is essential for reaching favorable outcomes.
Finally, cultural awareness is vital. Conflict and negotiation styles vary across cultures, and understanding these differences can prevent miscommunication and foster more effective, respectful interactions. In today’s globalized workplace, cultural competence is not just a courtesy—it’s a strategic advantage.
Section 10.9: Case Study and Exercises
Section 10.9 Ethical Dilemma Case Study
The Green Paper
Scenario
You’re part of a bargaining team that has been locked in negotiations for six exhausting months. One evening, as you prepare to leave the meeting room, you notice a green sheet of paper near the chair where Devin—your counterpart from the opposing team—was seated. Curious, you pick it up and realize it’s a confidential document outlining the other team’s ideal negotiation outcomes.
Your initial reaction is excitement—this could be the breakthrough your team needs. But then, ethical questions begin to surface. You recall lessons from your organizational behavior course and the ethical frameworks that once seemed so straightforward. Now, in the heat of a real-world dilemma, they feel far more complex.
Ethical Questions to Consider
From your training, you remember key questions that guide ethical decision-making in negotiations:
- Would using this information be honest?
- Would I be keeping my promises or violating trust?
- Am I treating others the way they want to be treated (Platinum Rule)?
- Is this decision fair and just?
- Will I feel proud of this decision tomorrow?
- Does this action violate organizational policies or legal standards?
- How would I feel if this decision were made public?
Just as you’re weighing these questions, Devin re-enters the room and asks, “Have you seen a green piece of paper?”
Ethical Dilemmas Involved
- Integrity vs. Opportunity: Using the document may give your team an edge, but it compromises honesty and fairness.
- Transparency vs. Confidentiality: You now possess information not intended for you—should you disclose it or remain silent?
- Short-Term Gain vs. Long-Term Reputation: Will this decision help your team now but damage your credibility later?
Justifying Your Choice
An ethical justification would involve returning the document to Devin immediately and disclosing that you saw its contents unintentionally. This action:
- Upholds transparency and trust
- Avoids exploiting a mistake
- Models ethical leadership and professionalism
Alternatively, choosing to use the document could be rationalized as strategic advantage due to the opposing team’s carelessness—but this rationale risks ethical fading and reputational harm (Lewicki et al., 2025; Lax & Sebenius, 1986).
Consequences of Your Choice
Choice | Positive Outcomes | Negative Outcomes |
---|---|---|
Return the document | Builds trust, protects reputation, aligns with ethical standards | May prolong negotiations, miss strategic advantage |
Use the document | Potentially ends negotiation quickly, benefits your team | Breaches trust, risks exposure, damages credibility |
Empowerment Tip
Ethical leadership isn’t about perfection—it’s about consistency, courage, and accountability. In moments of uncertainty, choose the path that aligns with your values, not just your goals.
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Individual Exercise
A Case of Listening—When Silence Is Strategic
Background
Listening is not just a passive activity—it’s a strategic tool in negotiation. Consider this real-world scenario adapted from Devine (2002):
William Devine was representing a client in a land purchase negotiation. After two hours of intense discussion over contract terms, the conversation turned to price. Devine and the seller were $100,000 apart. The seller said, “The price your client proposes will leave us well short of our projections. That makes it very tough on us.” Then—silence.
Devine’s instinct was to respond, to fill the silence with justification or incentives. But he paused. He realized that speaking might invite further bargaining and cost his client more. So he stayed silent.
After what felt like an eternity—but was less than 30 seconds—the seller broke the silence: “But I guess it’s good for us to just get this deal done, so we’ll do it.”
Devine saved his client $100,000 by saying nothing.
Research Insight
Recent studies support Devine’s experience. Silence can trigger reflection, reduce fixed-pie thinking, and lead to value creation in negotiations (Curhan et al., 2022). It allows negotiators to “go to the balcony”—to mentally step back and assess the situation objectively (Ury, 1993). Silence also helps defuse aggressive anchors and minimize cognitive biases (PON, 2025).
Questions to Reflect On
- What does this case suggest about the role of silence in negotiations? Consider how silence can shift power dynamics, invite concessions, or create space for reflection.
- Have you ever had a similar experience where saying nothing paid off? Reflect on personal, academic, or workplace situations where silence helped you gain clarity or advantage.
- Are there times when silence is a bad idea? Explain your answer. Think about cultural norms, status differences, or moments when silence might be misinterpreted.
Empowerment Tip
Silence isn’t weakness—it’s wisdom. Strategic pauses can help you listen better, think deeper, and negotiate smarter. Learn to be comfortable with silence; it’s often where breakthroughs begin.
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